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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 131689" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Arielle,</p><p> </p><p>I hope I did not upset you about the "asking husband about taking her to a child psychiartist". It was NOT meant as any kind of insult. I just have seen families where one parent objected and it didn't occur to the other to make the kind of deal you have with your husband. Do you have a time frame for trying the tutoring and more mom time before you see a child psychiatrist? I am asking because it can take MONTHS to get a new patient appointment with a psychiatrist, so it might be worthwhile to make the appointment and then cancel it if you see it isn't needed. That way you get treatment in a more timely manner IF you and husband decide it is needed. (I mention this because it took over 5 months to get our difficult child's first psychiatrist appointment - they scheduled that far ahead.)</p><p> </p><p>Has your daughter been tested for urinary tract infections? They can arise from constipation or fecal impaction - the mass of feces keeps the bladder form emptying fully. We had this with my daughter at about your daughter's age. a week of dulcolax and changing her posture on the toilet helped. </p><p> </p><p>The urologist said that she needed to sit up straight and have her knees as far apart as possible - panties at the ankles or off. If she has trouble remembering to keep her knees apart, having her sit on the potty facing the tank (backwards) is recommended. It also gives something to hold on to, and sometimes kids ARE afraid they will be sucked into the toilet, or are afraid of the sound of the water. I was.</p><p> </p><p>I know from experiences in parent support groups for parents of kids with ADHD that often a child CAN concentrate when she is interested in something. Things with screens (tv, videogames, etc...) often are focused on. Sometimes to the extent of everything else.</p><p> </p><p>Adhd CAN be a symptom of something else too. For children with Aspergers (NOT saying your daughter has this, just an example) ADHD is actually a facet of the disorder. Often given as a separate diagnosis, but much of the literature I have seen says it is part of the Aspergers. It helps get better/more/different insurance coverage to put is as a separate diagnosis. </p><p> </p><p>Many many of us here have started with ADHD and ODD as our children's diagnosis, then later found it was something else. </p><p> </p><p>Toileting issues are NOT generally what children choose to be defiant over. I am sure that there are children somewhere who do this, but it is not typical. </p><p> </p><p>Is your daughter on any medications? They can make a difference in bathroom accidents.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs,</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p><p> </p><p>ps. I know how frustrating it is to have a child sneaking food/drink into their room - at age 12 my oldest took a 3 pound package of ground beef (cooked) into his room and hid it behind his bed. He also took all of my spices to kill off anything that might give him food poisoning. Of course, his room started to stink horrifically, and he got food poisoning. </p><p> </p><p>Hoarding food is another thing lots of us go through with our kids. Wish I had an answer!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 131689, member: 1233"] Arielle, I hope I did not upset you about the "asking husband about taking her to a child psychiartist". It was NOT meant as any kind of insult. I just have seen families where one parent objected and it didn't occur to the other to make the kind of deal you have with your husband. Do you have a time frame for trying the tutoring and more mom time before you see a child psychiatrist? I am asking because it can take MONTHS to get a new patient appointment with a psychiatrist, so it might be worthwhile to make the appointment and then cancel it if you see it isn't needed. That way you get treatment in a more timely manner IF you and husband decide it is needed. (I mention this because it took over 5 months to get our difficult child's first psychiatrist appointment - they scheduled that far ahead.) Has your daughter been tested for urinary tract infections? They can arise from constipation or fecal impaction - the mass of feces keeps the bladder form emptying fully. We had this with my daughter at about your daughter's age. a week of dulcolax and changing her posture on the toilet helped. The urologist said that she needed to sit up straight and have her knees as far apart as possible - panties at the ankles or off. If she has trouble remembering to keep her knees apart, having her sit on the potty facing the tank (backwards) is recommended. It also gives something to hold on to, and sometimes kids ARE afraid they will be sucked into the toilet, or are afraid of the sound of the water. I was. I know from experiences in parent support groups for parents of kids with ADHD that often a child CAN concentrate when she is interested in something. Things with screens (tv, videogames, etc...) often are focused on. Sometimes to the extent of everything else. Adhd CAN be a symptom of something else too. For children with Aspergers (NOT saying your daughter has this, just an example) ADHD is actually a facet of the disorder. Often given as a separate diagnosis, but much of the literature I have seen says it is part of the Aspergers. It helps get better/more/different insurance coverage to put is as a separate diagnosis. Many many of us here have started with ADHD and ODD as our children's diagnosis, then later found it was something else. Toileting issues are NOT generally what children choose to be defiant over. I am sure that there are children somewhere who do this, but it is not typical. Is your daughter on any medications? They can make a difference in bathroom accidents. Hugs, Susie ps. I know how frustrating it is to have a child sneaking food/drink into their room - at age 12 my oldest took a 3 pound package of ground beef (cooked) into his room and hid it behind his bed. He also took all of my spices to kill off anything that might give him food poisoning. Of course, his room started to stink horrifically, and he got food poisoning. Hoarding food is another thing lots of us go through with our kids. Wish I had an answer! [/QUOTE]
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