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toughlovin
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Hi everyone,
Well I just don't know what to think. Recently I have been having some pretty good text confersations with difficult child. They always come when he wants something but he has been polite and we have actually talked a little..... of course he often ignores me when I asked detailed questions.
So a couple of days ago it came out that he left alot of his stuff at the sober house he was kicked out of, including most of his clothes, his ipod, and a notebook with poetry he wrote in it. He seemed most upset about the notebook. In that conversation he also told me that they didn't let him pack when he left but just had him zip up his suitcases..... and also that the owner pulled him by the hair and threw him against the wall and another resident gave him a black eye. OK I was rather upset by this but what can I do?
I did call the sober house and asked them about his stuff and they said they would check. I also thought they had cashed a check I had written for groceries after difficult child left which kind of bugged me.
I knew it was possible my difficult child was making the whole thing up or exaggerating. I mean what reason do I have to believe anything he says? However in a way it makes no difference because I am not going to confront the sober house on the assault....my son felt that if he hadn't done something himself he could have been arrested for charges could be brought... but he is not going to go there because he had also done something seriously wrong.
So my son needs clothes and it is Xmas time so I am thinking ok we can get him some clothes for Xmas. He has been reasonable in our conversations about that. He also wants a bicycle which I am thinking the money from grandparents could be used for a used bike.
So yesterday I texted with the sober house woman.... they said he did not leave any stuff. They also said they did not cash the check. I checked the bank and I misunderstood my online banking so I think they are correct and that was my mistake.
So now I am wondering what the truth is. I probably will never know. I have the feeling there is probably a bit more to this story.... and my guess is they were a bit rough with my son... geez they had plenty of reason to be really really angry with him.... but probably not to the extent he is telling me. And what did happen to his stuff? They called me when they found his liscence... my guess is they wouuld have let me know about his other stuff. So is he just asking for sympathy or did he lose his stuff along the way or sell some of it to buy spice? Or does he have it and is just trying to get a gift card otu of me? He knows we won't give him cash but I am considering giving him a gift card so he can shop for clothes.
It just leaves me feeling rather unsure of what to do about gifts. I am going to call the place he is at and ask their advice on what i should do.
Any thoughts from all of you would be welcome. Where else can I explain this scenario and know you will totally understand and get it
TL
Well I just don't know what to think. Recently I have been having some pretty good text confersations with difficult child. They always come when he wants something but he has been polite and we have actually talked a little..... of course he often ignores me when I asked detailed questions.
So a couple of days ago it came out that he left alot of his stuff at the sober house he was kicked out of, including most of his clothes, his ipod, and a notebook with poetry he wrote in it. He seemed most upset about the notebook. In that conversation he also told me that they didn't let him pack when he left but just had him zip up his suitcases..... and also that the owner pulled him by the hair and threw him against the wall and another resident gave him a black eye. OK I was rather upset by this but what can I do?
I did call the sober house and asked them about his stuff and they said they would check. I also thought they had cashed a check I had written for groceries after difficult child left which kind of bugged me.
I knew it was possible my difficult child was making the whole thing up or exaggerating. I mean what reason do I have to believe anything he says? However in a way it makes no difference because I am not going to confront the sober house on the assault....my son felt that if he hadn't done something himself he could have been arrested for charges could be brought... but he is not going to go there because he had also done something seriously wrong.
So my son needs clothes and it is Xmas time so I am thinking ok we can get him some clothes for Xmas. He has been reasonable in our conversations about that. He also wants a bicycle which I am thinking the money from grandparents could be used for a used bike.
So yesterday I texted with the sober house woman.... they said he did not leave any stuff. They also said they did not cash the check. I checked the bank and I misunderstood my online banking so I think they are correct and that was my mistake.
So now I am wondering what the truth is. I probably will never know. I have the feeling there is probably a bit more to this story.... and my guess is they were a bit rough with my son... geez they had plenty of reason to be really really angry with him.... but probably not to the extent he is telling me. And what did happen to his stuff? They called me when they found his liscence... my guess is they wouuld have let me know about his other stuff. So is he just asking for sympathy or did he lose his stuff along the way or sell some of it to buy spice? Or does he have it and is just trying to get a gift card otu of me? He knows we won't give him cash but I am considering giving him a gift card so he can shop for clothes.
It just leaves me feeling rather unsure of what to do about gifts. I am going to call the place he is at and ask their advice on what i should do.
Any thoughts from all of you would be welcome. Where else can I explain this scenario and know you will totally understand and get it
TL