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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 656515" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Yep. Not talking to you, yet leading you on, is a form of betrayal. My mom did this by keeping up chat with me after LONG after she had already purged me from her life. A nice, "You're not my daughter anymore" would have been upfront and not passive-aggressive or revengeful. I don't know if she betrayed me. I truly didn't give a shotula about whatever money she had or didn't have. I feel the same way about my father. Her betrayal was not saying to my face, "I disown you" rather than speaking silently from the grave.</p><p></p><p>Nobody wants to feel disowned by even an abusive mother. It's just a human dynamic. I held on...if just a little...until I couldn't anymore. I feel my mom betrayed me as did my disowned ex- siblings for not telling me (they knew) and also because sibs were so passive about trying to speak up in my behalf. They were making nice to me all those years while AGREEING with the big E (sigh).</p><p></p><p>The big thing here, friends, is not to let others define us. We know who we are. They don't. I am seeing more and more how silly it is to let people who think little of you, be it a crazy mother, stranger siblings or close friends...to define who you are. That will never happen again to me. I will never buy what they are selling about me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 656515, member: 1550"] Yep. Not talking to you, yet leading you on, is a form of betrayal. My mom did this by keeping up chat with me after LONG after she had already purged me from her life. A nice, "You're not my daughter anymore" would have been upfront and not passive-aggressive or revengeful. I don't know if she betrayed me. I truly didn't give a shotula about whatever money she had or didn't have. I feel the same way about my father. Her betrayal was not saying to my face, "I disown you" rather than speaking silently from the grave. Nobody wants to feel disowned by even an abusive mother. It's just a human dynamic. I held on...if just a little...until I couldn't anymore. I feel my mom betrayed me as did my disowned ex- siblings for not telling me (they knew) and also because sibs were so passive about trying to speak up in my behalf. They were making nice to me all those years while AGREEING with the big E (sigh). The big thing here, friends, is not to let others define us. We know who we are. They don't. I am seeing more and more how silly it is to let people who think little of you, be it a crazy mother, stranger siblings or close friends...to define who you are. That will never happen again to me. I will never buy what they are selling about me. [/QUOTE]
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