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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 162258"><p>Thank you for all the hugs.</p><p></p><p>Witz - No one in my family has anything resembling any of this. My mom always asks, "Who ****** in your gene pool?" If I didn't look so much like her, I'd swear I was adopted.</p><p></p><p>Linda - Yeah, I overdid it. But, with 4 cats and a dog shedding, the house really needed vacuumed. And Wynter's tutor was coming over last night and they work at the kitchen table. I really wanted the kitchen clean. I didn't touch the bathrooms (they so need it) or folding laundry (about 3 baskets worth) or changing the bedding or dusting or any of the other stuff. I just wanted the house to be presentable. </p><p></p><p>As far as easy child....he knows and I know that he has to start laying some boundaries. It's hard for him, but he's working on it. He's never felt unconditional love from his dad so while he can tell me things and know that I will still love him and be there for him, he doesn't have that security with his dad. He still has hope for his relationship with his dad, but he's more and more frustrated with his dad and that family's behavior towards him. To top it off, they're going on a cruise when he gets there. Nice family thing, right? Except it's soooo not easy child's thing. He told his dad last fall that he didn't want to go; that he'd rather stay home. His dad made some comment about why would he want to stay home, there wouldn't be anyone there. easy child told him that 'that' wasn't him home. This is. Told him repeatedly he didn't want to go. His dad bought the ticket and got his passport anyway. </p><p></p><p>There's nothing wrong with family vacation and doing things together as a family. Except that they don't normally do family vacations with easy child. That's really bothered him. And now the one time they are forcing him to go, it's something that's just not his thing. And if he doesn't conform the way they think he should or the way they want him to, they give him all kinds of cr@p. Like a couple of years ago they asked him before he went down if he wanted them to get him a season pass to Six Flags. He said no, he doesn't like those kinds of rides. (He's not a thrill seeker at all.) They got him one anyway, made him go then spent the entire day calling him a party-pooper and giving him all kinds of grief when he didn't ride the roller coasters. They have never accepted him for who he is.</p><p></p><p>Don't get me wrong...I think it's good to step outside your comfort zone. Except that his dad and step-mom won't give him any peace about it. If he were going with someone who truly had his best interests at heart instead of their own selfish interests (like his dad), I wouldn't be worried at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 162258"] Thank you for all the hugs. Witz - No one in my family has anything resembling any of this. My mom always asks, "Who ****** in your gene pool?" If I didn't look so much like her, I'd swear I was adopted. Linda - Yeah, I overdid it. But, with 4 cats and a dog shedding, the house really needed vacuumed. And Wynter's tutor was coming over last night and they work at the kitchen table. I really wanted the kitchen clean. I didn't touch the bathrooms (they so need it) or folding laundry (about 3 baskets worth) or changing the bedding or dusting or any of the other stuff. I just wanted the house to be presentable. As far as easy child....he knows and I know that he has to start laying some boundaries. It's hard for him, but he's working on it. He's never felt unconditional love from his dad so while he can tell me things and know that I will still love him and be there for him, he doesn't have that security with his dad. He still has hope for his relationship with his dad, but he's more and more frustrated with his dad and that family's behavior towards him. To top it off, they're going on a cruise when he gets there. Nice family thing, right? Except it's soooo not easy child's thing. He told his dad last fall that he didn't want to go; that he'd rather stay home. His dad made some comment about why would he want to stay home, there wouldn't be anyone there. easy child told him that 'that' wasn't him home. This is. Told him repeatedly he didn't want to go. His dad bought the ticket and got his passport anyway. There's nothing wrong with family vacation and doing things together as a family. Except that they don't normally do family vacations with easy child. That's really bothered him. And now the one time they are forcing him to go, it's something that's just not his thing. And if he doesn't conform the way they think he should or the way they want him to, they give him all kinds of cr@p. Like a couple of years ago they asked him before he went down if he wanted them to get him a season pass to Six Flags. He said no, he doesn't like those kinds of rides. (He's not a thrill seeker at all.) They got him one anyway, made him go then spent the entire day calling him a party-pooper and giving him all kinds of grief when he didn't ride the roller coasters. They have never accepted him for who he is. Don't get me wrong...I think it's good to step outside your comfort zone. Except that his dad and step-mom won't give him any peace about it. If he were going with someone who truly had his best interests at heart instead of their own selfish interests (like his dad), I wouldn't be worried at all. [/QUOTE]
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