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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 490189" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>You ASK too much. </p><p></p><p>You need to TELL more. </p><p></p><p>I asked him if he'd brought his bowl. NOPE......</p><p></p><p>Your bowl needs to be in the kitchen in the next four minutes if you want ice cream for dessert. And if you don't want dessert that's fine, but if you don't bring me your bowl? - you can get ready for bed NOW. </p><p></p><p>YOU are the Mom - HE is the kid. He's going to whine - HE's going to complain. But the more you ask - the more he can answer. THe more you TELL him and be the authority figure - the less it's going to happen - he's just eventually going to KNOW......YOU are MOM...and this is the way it is. PERIOD. </p><p></p><p>It's like those women that talk to their toddlers and say "I need you to BLA BLAH BLAH.....okay?" OH it infuriates me. WHAT IS WITH THE OKAY????? SHe is the parent. HE is the child. WHY ask him if what you said was OKAY? UGH! SAY IT, MEAN it, OWN IT - have the kid DO it - and if they don't KNOW what your punishment is and levy it. THen carry it out and stick to it. THEY WILL WAIT YOU OUT ON THESE THINGS - well into the wee hours......ITS A TEST OF WILLS. </p><p></p><p>YOU CAN WIN -------YOu just have to know how to effectively communicate.....</p><p></p><p>Get that book I'm always blabbering about - </p><p>How to speak to your kids so they will listen and how to listen to your kids so they will speak. THere's one for teens too. </p><p></p><p>It's a good start. </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 490189, member: 4964"] You ASK too much. You need to TELL more. I asked him if he'd brought his bowl. NOPE...... Your bowl needs to be in the kitchen in the next four minutes if you want ice cream for dessert. And if you don't want dessert that's fine, but if you don't bring me your bowl? - you can get ready for bed NOW. YOU are the Mom - HE is the kid. He's going to whine - HE's going to complain. But the more you ask - the more he can answer. THe more you TELL him and be the authority figure - the less it's going to happen - he's just eventually going to KNOW......YOU are MOM...and this is the way it is. PERIOD. It's like those women that talk to their toddlers and say "I need you to BLA BLAH BLAH.....okay?" OH it infuriates me. WHAT IS WITH THE OKAY????? SHe is the parent. HE is the child. WHY ask him if what you said was OKAY? UGH! SAY IT, MEAN it, OWN IT - have the kid DO it - and if they don't KNOW what your punishment is and levy it. THen carry it out and stick to it. THEY WILL WAIT YOU OUT ON THESE THINGS - well into the wee hours......ITS A TEST OF WILLS. YOU CAN WIN -------YOu just have to know how to effectively communicate..... Get that book I'm always blabbering about - How to speak to your kids so they will listen and how to listen to your kids so they will speak. THere's one for teens too. It's a good start. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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