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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 222817" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>in my opinion only if she is having sex (and lying about it, which goes hand-in-hand), and isn't doing drugs or other things, it's not that bad. Yeah, I've already raised four kids to 15, and I would hate for my 12 year old daughter to have sex at 15, but some kids (I've learned) are doing it at 12. It's not that rare. To me, the biggest issue would be safe sex and not sleeping around. A boarding school, a military school, a wilderness camp will not stop her from being with boys if that's what she's going to do. Talk to her and make sure she understands safe sex because I doubt you can stop her since she started (no matter what you do), and it doesn't make her a terrible, bad, horrible person. She is not unusual. You risk alienating her forever, and your youngest will see that you sent her away and it isn't really because she's a danger at home. My criteria for telling kids to leave is if they are dangerous or extremely defiant. Doing what we don't want them to do in my opinion is absolutely typical teen, unless they are breaking the law. You have to do what you think is right. Everyone here has a different standard of what "the last straw" is. Mine would be drugs (my daughter almost died taking drugs--so maybe I just see sex with a different set of eyes) and/or violence. I can't imagine making a child leave my house because she is sexually active, even though it wouldn't thrill me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 222817, member: 1550"] in my opinion only if she is having sex (and lying about it, which goes hand-in-hand), and isn't doing drugs or other things, it's not that bad. Yeah, I've already raised four kids to 15, and I would hate for my 12 year old daughter to have sex at 15, but some kids (I've learned) are doing it at 12. It's not that rare. To me, the biggest issue would be safe sex and not sleeping around. A boarding school, a military school, a wilderness camp will not stop her from being with boys if that's what she's going to do. Talk to her and make sure she understands safe sex because I doubt you can stop her since she started (no matter what you do), and it doesn't make her a terrible, bad, horrible person. She is not unusual. You risk alienating her forever, and your youngest will see that you sent her away and it isn't really because she's a danger at home. My criteria for telling kids to leave is if they are dangerous or extremely defiant. Doing what we don't want them to do in my opinion is absolutely typical teen, unless they are breaking the law. You have to do what you think is right. Everyone here has a different standard of what "the last straw" is. Mine would be drugs (my daughter almost died taking drugs--so maybe I just see sex with a different set of eyes) and/or violence. I can't imagine making a child leave my house because she is sexually active, even though it wouldn't thrill me. [/QUOTE]
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