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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 151067" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I am glad you found a help section. </p><p> </p><p>I have read several books over Dude's lifetime. The biggest waste to me was 1-2-3 magic. I won't recommend it because I tried some of the methods with Dude -and I say ONE, TWO.........THREE and then on three he's supposed to know me saying "One, and TWO were warnings." </p><p> </p><p>I think "NO" is a better more direct thing to teach a child. My reasons for NOT ever recommending it? Dude was 3 years old, he found a fork, he popped off the safety cover - and was digging around and my mother in law (who recommended the book) was sitting there yelling DUDE ONE......(slap my head) no - a fork in the socket is a HUGE NOOOOOOOOOO. But she proceeded to say "TWO." and Dude looked back with a devilish grin and by the time she had said 2 - I was across the floor and knocked it fork out of his hand. </p><p> </p><p>I asked her - WHAT IF HE WAS RUNNING INTO TRAFFIC - are you going to yell "ONE, TWO, THREE? OH sorry - you chose not to listen you are dead?" and she said well for THOSE times you yell NO. And I said THen what is the sense of yelling out ONE, TWO, THREE?" When she couldn't give me a logical response to a good question - I decided that 1,2,3 was not for me. </p><p> </p><p>It teaches (IMVHO) a young child that you get three chances to do what you want to do before the parent hits the magic THREE word - and then it's like I said -HOW would they differentiate between (one, two three - for putting back a box of cereal) and (one, two, three - don't run into the road?) </p><p> </p><p>As for me and my house? No thank you. I don't think it's a good thing to teach any child - let a lone a difficult child who gets an inch and takes a mile. </p><p> </p><p>If you can get a copy - try 'How to talk so your kids will listen and how to LISTEN so your kids will talk." it has work book pages and a week to week study focus. I wish I had gotten that book when I was pregnant with my son - I really thought I knew how to talk to kids - and well - let's say I'm still learning. </p><p> </p><p>Oh and FYI (not that it matters) I was in a store yesterday and heard a child misbehaving. ANd the young mother started with a long drawn out - ONE........TWO....and I said to myself OKAY THAT's THREE.....and the mother went - FOUR......and I finally looked up and said - "Question? At what number do your children become obedient and listen?" and she said (serious) "Well I try to give them extra chances before I give punishments." and I stared at her and said "So saying IF MOmmy says NO - or you'll get a punishment doesn't work you just keep going until you hit on a number that you don't have to give out a punishment?" and she said "Well I'm shopping and I didn't want to have to stop." and I said "Uhhhhh huh......sounds like she's got you trained pretty well - good luck with that." and she was polite and smiled - but it just sounded lame to me. </p><p> </p><p>Happy reading. </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 151067, member: 4964"] I am glad you found a help section. I have read several books over Dude's lifetime. The biggest waste to me was 1-2-3 magic. I won't recommend it because I tried some of the methods with Dude -and I say ONE, TWO.........THREE and then on three he's supposed to know me saying "One, and TWO were warnings." I think "NO" is a better more direct thing to teach a child. My reasons for NOT ever recommending it? Dude was 3 years old, he found a fork, he popped off the safety cover - and was digging around and my mother in law (who recommended the book) was sitting there yelling DUDE ONE......(slap my head) no - a fork in the socket is a HUGE NOOOOOOOOOO. But she proceeded to say "TWO." and Dude looked back with a devilish grin and by the time she had said 2 - I was across the floor and knocked it fork out of his hand. I asked her - WHAT IF HE WAS RUNNING INTO TRAFFIC - are you going to yell "ONE, TWO, THREE? OH sorry - you chose not to listen you are dead?" and she said well for THOSE times you yell NO. And I said THen what is the sense of yelling out ONE, TWO, THREE?" When she couldn't give me a logical response to a good question - I decided that 1,2,3 was not for me. It teaches (IMVHO) a young child that you get three chances to do what you want to do before the parent hits the magic THREE word - and then it's like I said -HOW would they differentiate between (one, two three - for putting back a box of cereal) and (one, two, three - don't run into the road?) As for me and my house? No thank you. I don't think it's a good thing to teach any child - let a lone a difficult child who gets an inch and takes a mile. If you can get a copy - try 'How to talk so your kids will listen and how to LISTEN so your kids will talk." it has work book pages and a week to week study focus. I wish I had gotten that book when I was pregnant with my son - I really thought I knew how to talk to kids - and well - let's say I'm still learning. Oh and FYI (not that it matters) I was in a store yesterday and heard a child misbehaving. ANd the young mother started with a long drawn out - ONE........TWO....and I said to myself OKAY THAT's THREE.....and the mother went - FOUR......and I finally looked up and said - "Question? At what number do your children become obedient and listen?" and she said (serious) "Well I try to give them extra chances before I give punishments." and I stared at her and said "So saying IF MOmmy says NO - or you'll get a punishment doesn't work you just keep going until you hit on a number that you don't have to give out a punishment?" and she said "Well I'm shopping and I didn't want to have to stop." and I said "Uhhhhh huh......sounds like she's got you trained pretty well - good luck with that." and she was polite and smiled - but it just sounded lame to me. Happy reading. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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