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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 125848" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>In Australia, the school is responsible for bullying by a student outside school, if the student was on the way to school or on the way home. They also have discretion - difficult child 3 was bullied by a kid who had already arrived home but had gone out again, but was still in school uniform. difficult child 3 was not even a student at the school when the incident happened - he enrolled two days later.</p><p></p><p>You can also get the police involved. We've been told (now) that we should have called the police for every incident of physical attack. The police may not come out to see us each time, they told us, but by calling them we are leaving a very important paper trail. If I HAD called the police in past attacks, then when I finally DID call the cops when they drew blood by throwing a log at his head, the police would not have treated it as an isolated attack.</p><p></p><p>Now I call the police. I also have told the local school who don't HAVE to do anything (by then the kids have arrived home and are out of uniform) but because it's a small village and the bullies bring that behaviour into the school grounds, it is in the school's interests to resolve it all.</p><p></p><p>We have been advised to NOT take matters into our own hands. I wanted to go talk to the other parents - I was advised not to, so I didn't. It leaves things too wide open for retribution without a paper trail. A nasty bullying parent can make false accusations on you (for trespass, for attacking their child etc) and you're stuck like a shag on a rock. </p><p>I've spoken to attacker's parents TWICE. Once, the problems stopped (but only because I said, "from here we all make a fresh start.") The other time, the parent refused to accept that his son was the aggressor, and the kid is now a real thorn in our sides, vandalising our place whenever he thinks he can get away with it. I've tried to make friends with the kid, but to no avail. I'm the enemy, because I know the truth about him. So how on earth could he ever believe I could be friends with him?</p><p></p><p>Bullying requires an appropriate, considered response. Failure to respond only teaches the bullies that this is allowable behaviour. Also, some bullies are victims themselves, at some level and at some time. If this goes untended, a child can continue to be in danger. Appropriate intervention can help both bully and victim.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 125848, member: 1991"] In Australia, the school is responsible for bullying by a student outside school, if the student was on the way to school or on the way home. They also have discretion - difficult child 3 was bullied by a kid who had already arrived home but had gone out again, but was still in school uniform. difficult child 3 was not even a student at the school when the incident happened - he enrolled two days later. You can also get the police involved. We've been told (now) that we should have called the police for every incident of physical attack. The police may not come out to see us each time, they told us, but by calling them we are leaving a very important paper trail. If I HAD called the police in past attacks, then when I finally DID call the cops when they drew blood by throwing a log at his head, the police would not have treated it as an isolated attack. Now I call the police. I also have told the local school who don't HAVE to do anything (by then the kids have arrived home and are out of uniform) but because it's a small village and the bullies bring that behaviour into the school grounds, it is in the school's interests to resolve it all. We have been advised to NOT take matters into our own hands. I wanted to go talk to the other parents - I was advised not to, so I didn't. It leaves things too wide open for retribution without a paper trail. A nasty bullying parent can make false accusations on you (for trespass, for attacking their child etc) and you're stuck like a shag on a rock. I've spoken to attacker's parents TWICE. Once, the problems stopped (but only because I said, "from here we all make a fresh start.") The other time, the parent refused to accept that his son was the aggressor, and the kid is now a real thorn in our sides, vandalising our place whenever he thinks he can get away with it. I've tried to make friends with the kid, but to no avail. I'm the enemy, because I know the truth about him. So how on earth could he ever believe I could be friends with him? Bullying requires an appropriate, considered response. Failure to respond only teaches the bullies that this is allowable behaviour. Also, some bullies are victims themselves, at some level and at some time. If this goes untended, a child can continue to be in danger. Appropriate intervention can help both bully and victim. Marg [/QUOTE]
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