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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 618132" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Good morning. Well, I think the best answer I can give to your question is that she did not learn how to detach. She was a very successful attorney and it appears that she set her son up in an apartment and paid for his needs to be met without addressing any of the ways in which she could learn to respond differently to his behavior. She became very bitter and many of her friends distanced themselves from her because it was difficult to be around that level of negativity. I heard through the grapevine that she lost her job and I believe that had something to do with her son as well.</p><p></p><p>In any case, my understanding of the events were that she enabled him to her own demise. </p><p></p><p>The last time I saw her was at a HS reunion and she told me that she never knew when we were kids just how horrible life could turn out. I recall thinking at that time, that we all have life events that are challenging and yet she allowed her life events to take her out and even though she was accomplished and affluent in the eyes of society, she was an extremely unhappy person. Her unhappy life events defined her as opposed to rising above them. It is very sad.</p><p></p><p>I think the lesson she might provide is that it is our choice what we do with what life hands us. I know it sound trite, but it is the truth. She had one child and he turned out to be a difficult child..........she could not rise above that fact. I'm sure there is more to her story that I am not aware of, I'm sure she has her own take on things. That is my take on it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 618132, member: 13542"] Good morning. Well, I think the best answer I can give to your question is that she did not learn how to detach. She was a very successful attorney and it appears that she set her son up in an apartment and paid for his needs to be met without addressing any of the ways in which she could learn to respond differently to his behavior. She became very bitter and many of her friends distanced themselves from her because it was difficult to be around that level of negativity. I heard through the grapevine that she lost her job and I believe that had something to do with her son as well. In any case, my understanding of the events were that she enabled him to her own demise. The last time I saw her was at a HS reunion and she told me that she never knew when we were kids just how horrible life could turn out. I recall thinking at that time, that we all have life events that are challenging and yet she allowed her life events to take her out and even though she was accomplished and affluent in the eyes of society, she was an extremely unhappy person. Her unhappy life events defined her as opposed to rising above them. It is very sad. I think the lesson she might provide is that it is our choice what we do with what life hands us. I know it sound trite, but it is the truth. She had one child and he turned out to be a difficult child..........she could not rise above that fact. I'm sure there is more to her story that I am not aware of, I'm sure she has her own take on things. That is my take on it. [/QUOTE]
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