Hello All- I've been on here about a month (aka JakesMom) and recently went through a crisis that is continuing...I know all of you are in various stages of dealing with much the same thing...it's interesting though that any post I read focuses on the difficult child and not on you guys-- the parent...and I was wondering how you FEEL when you're going through these things? are you able to function (I just went to get groceries and it was all I could do not to sob every time I went down an aisle that had a favorite of my difficult child's that I normally would have bought)? do you go to work everyday and pretend all is ok? I feel so mopey and sad...Friday I just couldn't face work and laid on the couch all day watching 'feel good' movies...my husband (father who adopted my difficult child at age 3) is so tired of seeing me crying and moping, not wanting to cook (can't remember the last time I cooked us a meal-- I do have a roast in the slow cooker today though!)....how do you feel? when you 'take care' of yourself through all of this, what kinds of things do you do?