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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 618222" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Well said Childofmine. I can relate to having danced as fast as I could. I still dance, just a whole lot slower and to the dances I enjoy. Not the frenzied, breathless ones which are the result of perfectionism. I am the oldest of 5 and had the same prescription for life as you. Learning to just BE and ENJOY have been huge life lessons. And, truly, I believe my daughter, the difficult child, was one of my greatest teachers in that realm. Once in a moment of clarity and truth, with tears in her eyes, she said all she ever wanted was for me to be happy and released from the pain of my own childhood. </p><p></p><p>I think of that sometimes and realize that there is much more to just our bodies walking around here on planet earth................there is a deeper context, the growth of the soul..................the development of consciousness...............the learning of deeper truths that have to do with staying awake and present through all of the pain and joy and simply BEING a part of it all............not defining it as right or wrong or good or bad but just what is and responding with as much grace as we possibly can.</p><p></p><p>I took a workshop many years ago (<em>prerequisites in the state of California)</em> which taught 4 "simple" guidelines,..................they are, 1. let go of judging, 2. let go of comparing, 3. let go of the outcome and 4. let go of the need to understand. The need to understand has been a bit of an issue for me. I want to KNOW. But that is where the "it is what it is" and acceptance comes in. I continue to practice these guidelines. They work for me.</p><p></p><p>And Cedar, you <strong><u>are</u></strong> relearning cherishing yourself, accepting yourself and humor. You are right smack in the middle of that. Bringing the joy back, being kind to yourself, being aware of the what you DON'T want. You DO know how to do this, you ARE doing it. You need to acknowledge that and own it. The more you can realize you are doing all of that, the more of all of that will be obvious to you.</p><p></p><p>Even though you may never know what it would be like to be the mother of a kid who is okay, as I may not know that.............<u>YOU Cedar are already okay just the way you are...</u>..........separate from being a MOM, you are a person who is starting to glimpse your own magnificence. Decide to enjoy that ride...............it is really the only ride in town.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 618222, member: 13542"] Well said Childofmine. I can relate to having danced as fast as I could. I still dance, just a whole lot slower and to the dances I enjoy. Not the frenzied, breathless ones which are the result of perfectionism. I am the oldest of 5 and had the same prescription for life as you. Learning to just BE and ENJOY have been huge life lessons. And, truly, I believe my daughter, the difficult child, was one of my greatest teachers in that realm. Once in a moment of clarity and truth, with tears in her eyes, she said all she ever wanted was for me to be happy and released from the pain of my own childhood. I think of that sometimes and realize that there is much more to just our bodies walking around here on planet earth................there is a deeper context, the growth of the soul..................the development of consciousness...............the learning of deeper truths that have to do with staying awake and present through all of the pain and joy and simply BEING a part of it all............not defining it as right or wrong or good or bad but just what is and responding with as much grace as we possibly can. I took a workshop many years ago ([I]prerequisites in the state of California)[/I] which taught 4 "simple" guidelines,..................they are, 1. let go of judging, 2. let go of comparing, 3. let go of the outcome and 4. let go of the need to understand. The need to understand has been a bit of an issue for me. I want to KNOW. But that is where the "it is what it is" and acceptance comes in. I continue to practice these guidelines. They work for me. And Cedar, you [B][U]are[/U][/B] relearning cherishing yourself, accepting yourself and humor. You are right smack in the middle of that. Bringing the joy back, being kind to yourself, being aware of the what you DON'T want. You DO know how to do this, you ARE doing it. You need to acknowledge that and own it. The more you can realize you are doing all of that, the more of all of that will be obvious to you. Even though you may never know what it would be like to be the mother of a kid who is okay, as I may not know that.............[U]YOU Cedar are already okay just the way you are...[/U]..........separate from being a MOM, you are a person who is starting to glimpse your own magnificence. Decide to enjoy that ride...............it is really the only ride in town. [/QUOTE]
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