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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 167304" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I think it may have been from this board about the end of April that I picked up on the "Call the police. You need to show your difficult child's that you do have back-up." (not sure who the thread was on if it was from this forum). I know that my easy child thinks that I am the most stupid idiotic person ever placed on this earth and how she ever survives my decisions is beyond her. She so disrespects me so I think it is great for her to hear from other people exactly what I say. She will not listen to me but she will listen to other adults.</p><p> </p><p>Your difficult child's are being normal kids in the disrepect department. They need to know that when there is abuse, they get in legal trouble just like anyone else who is abusive - that means the police. You can show your strength by calling in help when needed. You are the expert in your child. You know when they are about to or have crossed the line. You know when they are beyond hearing your directions. You know that at that point they need help getting back to reality and you refuse to let them flounder on their own while raging on you or someone else because you know someone will be hurt if it is not ended ASAP.</p><p> </p><p>The "team" have to know how difficult it is to make a call to the police. It is not something you would do lightly - they need to respect your knowledge of your kids and your call for help.</p><p> </p><p>You may want to write down the steps of each difficult children's anger - what may trigger it if known, what the warning signs are for difficult child and for you, what happens before the abuse starts. Go over it with each difficult child and mark where you are going to call the police. Tell them that as a family they need to find a way to work through their anger without hurting anyone (use your words - use appropriate words). Present this to them at a time when everyone is calm and open for a peaceful discussion.</p><p> </p><p>Hang in there - you are doing a great job - I know I am learning a lot from you in preparation of a time I may find myself in your footsteps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 167304, member: 5096"] I think it may have been from this board about the end of April that I picked up on the "Call the police. You need to show your difficult child's that you do have back-up." (not sure who the thread was on if it was from this forum). I know that my easy child thinks that I am the most stupid idiotic person ever placed on this earth and how she ever survives my decisions is beyond her. She so disrespects me so I think it is great for her to hear from other people exactly what I say. She will not listen to me but she will listen to other adults. Your difficult child's are being normal kids in the disrepect department. They need to know that when there is abuse, they get in legal trouble just like anyone else who is abusive - that means the police. You can show your strength by calling in help when needed. You are the expert in your child. You know when they are about to or have crossed the line. You know when they are beyond hearing your directions. You know that at that point they need help getting back to reality and you refuse to let them flounder on their own while raging on you or someone else because you know someone will be hurt if it is not ended ASAP. The "team" have to know how difficult it is to make a call to the police. It is not something you would do lightly - they need to respect your knowledge of your kids and your call for help. You may want to write down the steps of each difficult children's anger - what may trigger it if known, what the warning signs are for difficult child and for you, what happens before the abuse starts. Go over it with each difficult child and mark where you are going to call the police. Tell them that as a family they need to find a way to work through their anger without hurting anyone (use your words - use appropriate words). Present this to them at a time when everyone is calm and open for a peaceful discussion. Hang in there - you are doing a great job - I know I am learning a lot from you in preparation of a time I may find myself in your footsteps. [/QUOTE]
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