aeroeng
Mom of Three
difficult child was angry at us (Mom & Dad) for the last two weeks. On Friday evening he was determined to keep us all awake and kept making noise late at night. I told husband that he needed to do something as difficult child was determined to keep testing us to see how far he could push and would keep us up all night if not confronted. husband said, Ok but that it would get ugly. I said, I knew, but that he would not stop until he got a reaction.
husband confronted difficult child and it came to head. husband said some things which upset difficult child and difficult child finally started talking and it flowed out like a water fall. All the things that he was angry about and everything that was bothering him. He was very emotional. We reflected back everything he said, to show him we hear it, and then talked about our positions as well. When he was finally exhausted he said, I still hate you and went to bed. husband looked at me and asked if that was good or bad? I said good because he was finally letting it out. Even if he still remained angry he was communicating. husband and I gave him a few minute to settle down and then went to bed ourselves.
In about 10 minutes difficult child came back into our room, shivering with high anxiety. The house was very warm. difficult child said he was very cold, and could not get warm. He also wanted to snuggle to get warm, but complained that we felt cold. I got a thermometer. difficult child had a fever of 100.7 and rising. We gave him Motrin and rubbed his head and scratched his back to calm him down. He said that he forgave us and promised to be good again. In the morning he seemed healthy again, no fever, no other symptoms. He behaved reasonably well through the week end.
It seemed strange that the only symptom was the fever and anxiety immediately following the emotional release. He does not normally suffer from anxiety, this was a first. Usually it is just anger that gets him. But could the anxiety have caused the fever?
husband confronted difficult child and it came to head. husband said some things which upset difficult child and difficult child finally started talking and it flowed out like a water fall. All the things that he was angry about and everything that was bothering him. He was very emotional. We reflected back everything he said, to show him we hear it, and then talked about our positions as well. When he was finally exhausted he said, I still hate you and went to bed. husband looked at me and asked if that was good or bad? I said good because he was finally letting it out. Even if he still remained angry he was communicating. husband and I gave him a few minute to settle down and then went to bed ourselves.
In about 10 minutes difficult child came back into our room, shivering with high anxiety. The house was very warm. difficult child said he was very cold, and could not get warm. He also wanted to snuggle to get warm, but complained that we felt cold. I got a thermometer. difficult child had a fever of 100.7 and rising. We gave him Motrin and rubbed his head and scratched his back to calm him down. He said that he forgave us and promised to be good again. In the morning he seemed healthy again, no fever, no other symptoms. He behaved reasonably well through the week end.
It seemed strange that the only symptom was the fever and anxiety immediately following the emotional release. He does not normally suffer from anxiety, this was a first. Usually it is just anger that gets him. But could the anxiety have caused the fever?