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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 595758" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this. It's very hard when your life has to revolve around a difficult child who is miserable all the time.</p><p></p><p>been there done that - and it stinks!</p><p></p><p>Right now, whether consciously or not, your difficult child is running your household. You and your family are making decisions based upon what will please difficult child and what will keep the peace.</p><p>My best advice is to re-prioritize wherever you can.</p><p></p><p>Remind yourself that difficult child is likely to be unhappy <em>regardless</em> of your decisions. Regardless of the activity, or meal, or outing - your difficult child will probably be miserable. So - stop taking the likelihood of difficult child's miserable response into your decision-making process.</p><p></p><p>If you are OK with leaving him home - that makes it even easier. Announce your activity - give difficult child the option of coming along or staying home. Let him know what time you will be returning. If he calls and calls? Just repeat what time you will be returning. "We will be home at 3".</p><p></p><p>And FWIW - difficult child is old enough to get himself up for school. If he doesn't get up on time? Let him take those consequences himself...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 595758, member: 6546"] (((Hugs))) I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this. It's very hard when your life has to revolve around a difficult child who is miserable all the time. been there done that - and it stinks! Right now, whether consciously or not, your difficult child is running your household. You and your family are making decisions based upon what will please difficult child and what will keep the peace. My best advice is to re-prioritize wherever you can. Remind yourself that difficult child is likely to be unhappy [I]regardless[/I] of your decisions. Regardless of the activity, or meal, or outing - your difficult child will probably be miserable. So - stop taking the likelihood of difficult child's miserable response into your decision-making process. If you are OK with leaving him home - that makes it even easier. Announce your activity - give difficult child the option of coming along or staying home. Let him know what time you will be returning. If he calls and calls? Just repeat what time you will be returning. "We will be home at 3". And FWIW - difficult child is old enough to get himself up for school. If he doesn't get up on time? Let him take those consequences himself... [/QUOTE]
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