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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 595772" data-attributes="member: 15810"><p>I know exactly how you feel. And I, too, have the same problems with feelings towards my difficult child. Even when he tries his behaviors are annoying and there are days when he grates on my nerves more than others.</p><p></p><p>Daisy gave you advice that I would have given. Pick an activity. Tell him come, don't come, it's up to him. If he comes set out the expectation for his behavior and what the consequences will be if he does not behave and makes everyone miserable. If he doesn't come, tell him what time you expect to be home and not to call unless he has questions that does not involved "when are you coming home?" difficult child has called me several times screaming because I wasn't home yet and I aways remind him that if he is going to scream at me I am going to end the call. It only took two times of hanging up on him for him to get the message that if he wants to speak to me by phone while I'm out, he needs to be nice about it.</p><p></p><p>Home is another matter. One minute he's kind, telling me how I'm the best mother ever. The next he's screaming at everyone, making threats, telling us that he hates us all and wishes that he had a totally different family. It's exhausting and depressing.</p><p></p><p>What does the therapist say about the home behaviors? Does she bring them up to him and try to help him with coping skills?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 595772, member: 15810"] I know exactly how you feel. And I, too, have the same problems with feelings towards my difficult child. Even when he tries his behaviors are annoying and there are days when he grates on my nerves more than others. Daisy gave you advice that I would have given. Pick an activity. Tell him come, don't come, it's up to him. If he comes set out the expectation for his behavior and what the consequences will be if he does not behave and makes everyone miserable. If he doesn't come, tell him what time you expect to be home and not to call unless he has questions that does not involved "when are you coming home?" difficult child has called me several times screaming because I wasn't home yet and I aways remind him that if he is going to scream at me I am going to end the call. It only took two times of hanging up on him for him to get the message that if he wants to speak to me by phone while I'm out, he needs to be nice about it. Home is another matter. One minute he's kind, telling me how I'm the best mother ever. The next he's screaming at everyone, making threats, telling us that he hates us all and wishes that he had a totally different family. It's exhausting and depressing. What does the therapist say about the home behaviors? Does she bring them up to him and try to help him with coping skills? [/QUOTE]
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