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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 642746" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>LOL...I get that impression too, Lil, and am trying hard to figure out why. Maybe it's because you contradict Jabby? Maybe because you help him too much and seem to think that this somehow WILL help him...maybe I just get the FEELING that yout think if you keep him from the elements and buy him lunch that he will eventually grow up?</p><p></p><p>I think for me it's just that you plain expect so little of him. At least, that is how I see it. And you overly worry about things you can't control, as if you WANT to control them, like the J's going to his shelter. In a way, to me it sounds like you are too complacent and don't see what is happening. But that doesn't equal a control freak, does it?</p><p></p><p>In the end, I think it all boils down to you are overly engaged in every move he makes in his dysfunctional life and worry about who he associates with and I was more able to let go. Of course, I had more than one kid too. I think that's big with many moms here who h ave only children. For one thing, you can't see how a regular child develops into an adult if you only have one kid. Also, one child gives us no other kids to interact with and distract ourselves with.</p><p></p><p>I knew i'd never give birth after 37. I was too afraid of my DNA pool. But I definitely felt I wanted many kids, so we adopted them. I am forever grateful. 37 can be a very disappointing adult child. At those times, it's easy to turn my focus to Jumper, Julie or Sonic (and grandkids). </p><p></p><p>I hope you aren't angry. I really LIKE you AND your husband. I am NOT criticizing what you do. In fact, I get it. I just did it differently, for whatever reason.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 642746, member: 1550"] LOL...I get that impression too, Lil, and am trying hard to figure out why. Maybe it's because you contradict Jabby? Maybe because you help him too much and seem to think that this somehow WILL help him...maybe I just get the FEELING that yout think if you keep him from the elements and buy him lunch that he will eventually grow up? I think for me it's just that you plain expect so little of him. At least, that is how I see it. And you overly worry about things you can't control, as if you WANT to control them, like the J's going to his shelter. In a way, to me it sounds like you are too complacent and don't see what is happening. But that doesn't equal a control freak, does it? In the end, I think it all boils down to you are overly engaged in every move he makes in his dysfunctional life and worry about who he associates with and I was more able to let go. Of course, I had more than one kid too. I think that's big with many moms here who h ave only children. For one thing, you can't see how a regular child develops into an adult if you only have one kid. Also, one child gives us no other kids to interact with and distract ourselves with. I knew i'd never give birth after 37. I was too afraid of my DNA pool. But I definitely felt I wanted many kids, so we adopted them. I am forever grateful. 37 can be a very disappointing adult child. At those times, it's easy to turn my focus to Jumper, Julie or Sonic (and grandkids). I hope you aren't angry. I really LIKE you AND your husband. I am NOT criticizing what you do. In fact, I get it. I just did it differently, for whatever reason. [/QUOTE]
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