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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 621538" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Just wish to second Midwest Mom's reply. I try very hard to not concern myself with my difficult child's appearence, etc. I just simply gave up, as she is an adult. I do set boundaries, especially when it comes to me and my home. For example, we have strict telephone boundaries. We have times that she is allowed to phone the home. One set for M-F and another for Sat. And Sunday. If she calls at the wrong time (we have caller ID) we don't answer the phone. She has lost her right to call when she wants. If she keeps on calling, we take the phone off the hook. Since she has improved with this (after many years) we have given her the right to text at the wrong time if she thinks it is an emergency, but not to expect us to reply because chances are we won't think it's an emergency. Lots of rules/boundaries and it took time to get her to cooperate with them, but she had no other choice. We told her "take it or leave it." Oh, and along with this, if she is rude or cusses, we as nicely and as quickly as possible (like immediately) cut her off, and get off the phone! She can call back (at the proper time) if she can speak respectfully and not a moment sooner.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 621538, member: 4152"] Just wish to second Midwest Mom's reply. I try very hard to not concern myself with my difficult child's appearence, etc. I just simply gave up, as she is an adult. I do set boundaries, especially when it comes to me and my home. For example, we have strict telephone boundaries. We have times that she is allowed to phone the home. One set for M-F and another for Sat. And Sunday. If she calls at the wrong time (we have caller ID) we don't answer the phone. She has lost her right to call when she wants. If she keeps on calling, we take the phone off the hook. Since she has improved with this (after many years) we have given her the right to text at the wrong time if she thinks it is an emergency, but not to expect us to reply because chances are we won't think it's an emergency. Lots of rules/boundaries and it took time to get her to cooperate with them, but she had no other choice. We told her "take it or leave it." Oh, and along with this, if she is rude or cusses, we as nicely and as quickly as possible (like immediately) cut her off, and get off the phone! She can call back (at the proper time) if she can speak respectfully and not a moment sooner. [/QUOTE]
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