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<blockquote data-quote="helpangel" data-source="post: 535497" data-attributes="member: 7170"><p>Thanks everyone I really appreciate the words of encouragement, after reading that post I remember why I try to avoid pity parties, wow I was really feeling sorry for poor me LOL . I need to drop the door mat act and suck it up! I sure was feeling sorry for myself I think it was more driving before coffee and too tired to take my pain medications then even about the kids at that point. </p><p></p><p>The girls did wash their load of jeans & underware themselves but ran into a problem when I let them bump in front of me in line for the dryer which isn't working properly right now (can only dry like third loads at a time) so had a whole basket of towels etc that was waiting for dryer when realized the only 2 choices for shirts today for me was a purple thing with holes and a skull on front or a Miley Cyrus tshirt - I'm past age limit for either of those to be seen in public in.</p><p></p><p>Laundry is a constant battle around here because both girls & I wear close to same size so all my clothes get borrowed then shoved in closet or under bed when done with it (gonna start getting a deposit LOL) I'm usually better at setting some stuff aside for myself but didn't realize during her blowout yesterday she had spit bbq chicken all over a whole closet full of clothes. Angry as I am right now if she wasn't horribly ill she wouldn't be doing this stuff.</p><p></p><p>It's not making excuses because I'm not alright with this behavior and have been very clear about that with her. It's not gonna throw her out but needs to respect others or we need to find other living arrangements. She was diagnosis bipolar, ODD & adHd 12 years ago and that many years seeing the same cycle repeat over and over I know what is going on medications need adjusting, and until she gets lithium level checked even I have no idea which one needs adjusting or if 2nd MS needs to be added. Getting an unstable 17yo in for a fasting blood draw is a lot harder then it sounds, especially when she knows your trying to get blood out of her (blink she's gone) I know lithium isn't fasting but I got orders from 4 doctors for this kid so its easiest if get all the work done at same time.</p><p></p><p>R's social security guy I met with is a total sweetheart, he took the time to talk me off the ledge, gave me a really good lead on a school program for Angel I didn't know about (looks like just what she needs), explained why I want guardianship not conservatorship or power of attorney in her case, even gave me the paperwork to reapply for SSI as an adult and told me when to come see him with it. Guardianship won't keep her out of a group home but it will keep me in control of her $ this will be better then if home gets her SSI because she won't be able to move or have control of any spending money etc. it will also give me power to get her medical treatment when she is denying it, I can also prevent her from getting a driver's license (those last 2 more important then the money)</p><p></p><p>I never suspected Angel was pregnant was just trying to find something positive this morning. I'm positive she isn't sexually active and doesn't have a boyfriend; she had one last summer out at camp but they split up when he tried to get to second base so she broke his arm & busted his lip. </p><p></p><p>My jabbering about game plans is we have plans for about everything here not just fire drills example if Angel goes out window I go out back door & son goes out front R (the minor) is to stay by the phone, if Angel is on roof down the street have my son one street over when I approach her so when does the thing over 2 rooftops & 3 fences she has her brother over there when comes out the other side. I got a really ill kid and when she has that fight or flight thing going its all hands on deck to keep her (& everyone else) safe.</p><p></p><p>Now that I'm not freeking out think I'm going back to original plan and using the next 13 months to do this transition right instead of trying to knee jerk it into place in less then 2 months time. In the meantime if she assaults someone she is either sleeping in jail that night or going to a psychiatric hospital because I'm tired of sleeping with one eye open - this has been going like this since Thanksgiving time with her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpangel, post: 535497, member: 7170"] Thanks everyone I really appreciate the words of encouragement, after reading that post I remember why I try to avoid pity parties, wow I was really feeling sorry for poor me LOL . I need to drop the door mat act and suck it up! I sure was feeling sorry for myself I think it was more driving before coffee and too tired to take my pain medications then even about the kids at that point. The girls did wash their load of jeans & underware themselves but ran into a problem when I let them bump in front of me in line for the dryer which isn't working properly right now (can only dry like third loads at a time) so had a whole basket of towels etc that was waiting for dryer when realized the only 2 choices for shirts today for me was a purple thing with holes and a skull on front or a Miley Cyrus tshirt - I'm past age limit for either of those to be seen in public in. Laundry is a constant battle around here because both girls & I wear close to same size so all my clothes get borrowed then shoved in closet or under bed when done with it (gonna start getting a deposit LOL) I'm usually better at setting some stuff aside for myself but didn't realize during her blowout yesterday she had spit bbq chicken all over a whole closet full of clothes. Angry as I am right now if she wasn't horribly ill she wouldn't be doing this stuff. It's not making excuses because I'm not alright with this behavior and have been very clear about that with her. It's not gonna throw her out but needs to respect others or we need to find other living arrangements. She was diagnosis bipolar, ODD & adHd 12 years ago and that many years seeing the same cycle repeat over and over I know what is going on medications need adjusting, and until she gets lithium level checked even I have no idea which one needs adjusting or if 2nd MS needs to be added. Getting an unstable 17yo in for a fasting blood draw is a lot harder then it sounds, especially when she knows your trying to get blood out of her (blink she's gone) I know lithium isn't fasting but I got orders from 4 doctors for this kid so its easiest if get all the work done at same time. R's social security guy I met with is a total sweetheart, he took the time to talk me off the ledge, gave me a really good lead on a school program for Angel I didn't know about (looks like just what she needs), explained why I want guardianship not conservatorship or power of attorney in her case, even gave me the paperwork to reapply for SSI as an adult and told me when to come see him with it. Guardianship won't keep her out of a group home but it will keep me in control of her $ this will be better then if home gets her SSI because she won't be able to move or have control of any spending money etc. it will also give me power to get her medical treatment when she is denying it, I can also prevent her from getting a driver's license (those last 2 more important then the money) I never suspected Angel was pregnant was just trying to find something positive this morning. I'm positive she isn't sexually active and doesn't have a boyfriend; she had one last summer out at camp but they split up when he tried to get to second base so she broke his arm & busted his lip. My jabbering about game plans is we have plans for about everything here not just fire drills example if Angel goes out window I go out back door & son goes out front R (the minor) is to stay by the phone, if Angel is on roof down the street have my son one street over when I approach her so when does the thing over 2 rooftops & 3 fences she has her brother over there when comes out the other side. I got a really ill kid and when she has that fight or flight thing going its all hands on deck to keep her (& everyone else) safe. Now that I'm not freeking out think I'm going back to original plan and using the next 13 months to do this transition right instead of trying to knee jerk it into place in less then 2 months time. In the meantime if she assaults someone she is either sleeping in jail that night or going to a psychiatric hospital because I'm tired of sleeping with one eye open - this has been going like this since Thanksgiving time with her. [/QUOTE]
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