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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 647744" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I am 61 and in good health, but I would not do what you are doing for your daughter for any reason. Would I try to get custody of the youngest grandkid? Yes, probably. Would I maybe buy stuff just for the grandkid's benefits? As long as Daughter didn't sell them or use them, probably. But my main goal would be custody of the three year old and proving my daughter was unfit and that is very hard to proof and must be awfully hard to do too. Obviously, though, the kids are not best off with her. She tried to kill herself three times? Did the kids see? She has had four baby daddies and two were married. Morals anyone? I don't see how she can take care of her kids or that she will remain with husband #4.</p><p></p><p>I have no words of wisdom. Just what I would probably do in your situation. At my age, which is your age, I want to have a wonderul, peaceful rest-of-my-life and could probably achieve that even raising the youngest grandchild. I like kids. However, I have made my grown son go very low contact with me when he has been in meltdown and abuse mode for my own peace of mind, that of my other loved ones, and and because it was bad for both me and for him to be able to get away with the disrespect.</p><p></p><p>I would read the post on a sticky on top about "detachment."</p><p></p><p>If your daughter keeps this up, you won't even be alive to take care of the rest of your grands. Be nice if she learned about birth control. Of course...she would be just a normal young woman if she either practiced safe sex or did not have it with anyone who was in her path and our grown kids are a lot like children. Even so, they are men and women and we can't save them.</p><p></p><p>I strongly recommend cutting off her money train, no matter how angry it makes her. It hasn't helped her and it is enabling her to not work. She can look online and find jobs and apply for them just like most other adults do. If she needed the money and knew you would not rescue her, she wouldn't have much of a choice but to try to grow up.</p><p></p><p>I wish you lots and lots of luck and you have my very best thoughts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 647744, member: 1550"] I am 61 and in good health, but I would not do what you are doing for your daughter for any reason. Would I try to get custody of the youngest grandkid? Yes, probably. Would I maybe buy stuff just for the grandkid's benefits? As long as Daughter didn't sell them or use them, probably. But my main goal would be custody of the three year old and proving my daughter was unfit and that is very hard to proof and must be awfully hard to do too. Obviously, though, the kids are not best off with her. She tried to kill herself three times? Did the kids see? She has had four baby daddies and two were married. Morals anyone? I don't see how she can take care of her kids or that she will remain with husband #4. I have no words of wisdom. Just what I would probably do in your situation. At my age, which is your age, I want to have a wonderul, peaceful rest-of-my-life and could probably achieve that even raising the youngest grandchild. I like kids. However, I have made my grown son go very low contact with me when he has been in meltdown and abuse mode for my own peace of mind, that of my other loved ones, and and because it was bad for both me and for him to be able to get away with the disrespect. I would read the post on a sticky on top about "detachment." If your daughter keeps this up, you won't even be alive to take care of the rest of your grands. Be nice if she learned about birth control. Of course...she would be just a normal young woman if she either practiced safe sex or did not have it with anyone who was in her path and our grown kids are a lot like children. Even so, they are men and women and we can't save them. I strongly recommend cutting off her money train, no matter how angry it makes her. It hasn't helped her and it is enabling her to not work. She can look online and find jobs and apply for them just like most other adults do. If she needed the money and knew you would not rescue her, she wouldn't have much of a choice but to try to grow up. I wish you lots and lots of luck and you have my very best thoughts. [/QUOTE]
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