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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 436975" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Katya!!!!!!! </p><p></p><p>Well I wondered what you were up to.......AND now I see your cup is over flowing! (hands saucer) .....second thought hands bowl.......third thought (just give the woman a bucket). Grits teeth and exhales......(did you try that? lol) snicker.....</p><p></p><p>Somedays I just look up and I ask God....."Have you looked at me lately? I'm not Chinese, I'm not really coordinated, I'm really the wrong person to be handing a plate on a stick to and yet HERE I am.....spinning twelve plates, on tiny sticks and then what do YOU do God? (and I laughhhh and I laugh) YOu hand me another TWO sticks and two more plates just FULL of problems. (pause for dramatic effect - yes even with God because well he made me and he knows my sense of direction) OHHH KAY!" and I just sit back and think to myself. Somedays it's not so much that I'm expected to figure it all out, it's just that it is what it is, and well.....I know I'm not Chinese - although I do have that exotic look so I could be like fifteen times removed on whatever side, but you get what I'm saying? So you have to ask yourself this "IS IT.....that I can handle all these things and keep my plates spinning, or is it that I have the ability to see that my life has these issues spinning around me and I can hand everyone their own stick and let them spin their own plate for a while?" I mean Katya - I get asked this all the time - so I'll ask you too - WHAT would happen to these people if they had to figure out all their problems for themselves? Or if you would allow yourself the right to feel limited in solving their problems? </p><p></p><p>I get it - I do- This is YOUR family and maybe it's just that you are making observations about EVERYTHING that is going on, and you dont' want to solve anything or feel like you can't do anything and sometimes that's even a worse feeling. If that's what's eating at you - then take it one problem at a time - or one spinning plate at a time. Take the easiest first. List them all out like you have with us....and talk to that person and say "I'm troubled by what you are going through, and I want to help you, but I'm not sure how I can help. Let's sit down and try to brainstorm for some answers and meet back here in XX days, and see what we can come up with -we're bright people." It just MAY be that the things that are bothering YOU - are NOT worring them at all. So then you either get to stop spinning that plate or find a solution or come to the realization that the current situation is the best situation and nothing better can be done - so deal with it for now - and meet back in XX days to see if any progress is made. If not? Well, the sad reality of those situations is - acceptance. I've had to do that with DF's back surgery and it's been a struggle, and it get's me no where to worry, or get upset, or get angry. It also was a struggle to accept that things in my life - which were finally looking up - were going to change dramatically and not for the better. I could and did have choices - Accept the situation and deal with the anger of it. I don' t necessarily 'accept it' every day, I still have days where I get angry and feel cheated out of so many things - but on those days I have to look at the things that I DO have and really concentrate on my blessings my other choice back them was Leave, find a new life - and leave the problem as it were with him. </p><p></p><p>Being overwhelmed seems like a hopeless situation at the time because you figure in for a penny - in for a ton - and you start trying to chip away at Mt. Everest with a pair of tweezers. Try dealing with a small pile of rocks, get a sense of accomplishment and move on to another pile of rocks, get a sense of completetion #2 under your belt and move on from there. It's a process.....and in the mean time? You have friends here who care, and will listen - and love you - no matter what you come and say. OOGGA BOOGGA BOOGA -----aught aught aught! </p><p></p><p>Just do one thing today - not 10.......Even if your brain says - BUT Katya - you have to fix 10 peoples things today - JUST fix ONE. Start with your list - take the easiset one to you first - talk to that person-----and see where tomorrow gets you. </p><p></p><p>Hugs & Love </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 436975, member: 4964"] Katya!!!!!!! Well I wondered what you were up to.......AND now I see your cup is over flowing! (hands saucer) .....second thought hands bowl.......third thought (just give the woman a bucket). Grits teeth and exhales......(did you try that? lol) snicker..... Somedays I just look up and I ask God....."Have you looked at me lately? I'm not Chinese, I'm not really coordinated, I'm really the wrong person to be handing a plate on a stick to and yet HERE I am.....spinning twelve plates, on tiny sticks and then what do YOU do God? (and I laughhhh and I laugh) YOu hand me another TWO sticks and two more plates just FULL of problems. (pause for dramatic effect - yes even with God because well he made me and he knows my sense of direction) OHHH KAY!" and I just sit back and think to myself. Somedays it's not so much that I'm expected to figure it all out, it's just that it is what it is, and well.....I know I'm not Chinese - although I do have that exotic look so I could be like fifteen times removed on whatever side, but you get what I'm saying? So you have to ask yourself this "IS IT.....that I can handle all these things and keep my plates spinning, or is it that I have the ability to see that my life has these issues spinning around me and I can hand everyone their own stick and let them spin their own plate for a while?" I mean Katya - I get asked this all the time - so I'll ask you too - WHAT would happen to these people if they had to figure out all their problems for themselves? Or if you would allow yourself the right to feel limited in solving their problems? I get it - I do- This is YOUR family and maybe it's just that you are making observations about EVERYTHING that is going on, and you dont' want to solve anything or feel like you can't do anything and sometimes that's even a worse feeling. If that's what's eating at you - then take it one problem at a time - or one spinning plate at a time. Take the easiest first. List them all out like you have with us....and talk to that person and say "I'm troubled by what you are going through, and I want to help you, but I'm not sure how I can help. Let's sit down and try to brainstorm for some answers and meet back here in XX days, and see what we can come up with -we're bright people." It just MAY be that the things that are bothering YOU - are NOT worring them at all. So then you either get to stop spinning that plate or find a solution or come to the realization that the current situation is the best situation and nothing better can be done - so deal with it for now - and meet back in XX days to see if any progress is made. If not? Well, the sad reality of those situations is - acceptance. I've had to do that with DF's back surgery and it's been a struggle, and it get's me no where to worry, or get upset, or get angry. It also was a struggle to accept that things in my life - which were finally looking up - were going to change dramatically and not for the better. I could and did have choices - Accept the situation and deal with the anger of it. I don' t necessarily 'accept it' every day, I still have days where I get angry and feel cheated out of so many things - but on those days I have to look at the things that I DO have and really concentrate on my blessings my other choice back them was Leave, find a new life - and leave the problem as it were with him. Being overwhelmed seems like a hopeless situation at the time because you figure in for a penny - in for a ton - and you start trying to chip away at Mt. Everest with a pair of tweezers. Try dealing with a small pile of rocks, get a sense of accomplishment and move on to another pile of rocks, get a sense of completetion #2 under your belt and move on from there. It's a process.....and in the mean time? You have friends here who care, and will listen - and love you - no matter what you come and say. OOGGA BOOGGA BOOGA -----aught aught aught! Just do one thing today - not 10.......Even if your brain says - BUT Katya - you have to fix 10 peoples things today - JUST fix ONE. Start with your list - take the easiset one to you first - talk to that person-----and see where tomorrow gets you. Hugs & Love Star [/QUOTE]
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