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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 158545" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I lived in a pretty aflluent neighborhood and I made a very good salary both when employed and self-employed. My daughter was eligible for free lunch, medicaid and a few other programs. I took advantage of every program I could. It wasn't that I couldn't afford to pay for them but that I could use that money for things that weren't provided by social services such as equine therapy, dance, gymnastics.</p><p> </p><p>I got the looks and, frequently, the comments. The ones that got to me were those who muttered under their breath about people taking advantage of the system. At first, I tried to set them straight. Explaining that my daughter had special needs and I couldn't afford to pay for everything myself. I finally got smart and just didn't say anything. If I was asked, I would answer honestly -- I felt (and still do) that explaining how the system worked might help the next person. If they muttered, glared, raised their eyebrows, it was their problem. I was doing nothing illegal nor immoral.</p><p> </p><p>Sadly, we have to develop thick skins -- not just because our kids will happily embarass us in public or will do what they will regardless of our feelings, but because of the idiots who try to judge us because of our "poor" parenting skills. When you add in things like appearing to be affluent, your skin just has to be a bit tougher. As long as you know you aren't cheating anyone and that you are doing everything possible to help your child, stare them in eye and dare them to say something. It takes time and practice but you do reach the point where their opinions don't matter.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 158545, member: 3626"] I lived in a pretty aflluent neighborhood and I made a very good salary both when employed and self-employed. My daughter was eligible for free lunch, medicaid and a few other programs. I took advantage of every program I could. It wasn't that I couldn't afford to pay for them but that I could use that money for things that weren't provided by social services such as equine therapy, dance, gymnastics. I got the looks and, frequently, the comments. The ones that got to me were those who muttered under their breath about people taking advantage of the system. At first, I tried to set them straight. Explaining that my daughter had special needs and I couldn't afford to pay for everything myself. I finally got smart and just didn't say anything. If I was asked, I would answer honestly -- I felt (and still do) that explaining how the system worked might help the next person. If they muttered, glared, raised their eyebrows, it was their problem. I was doing nothing illegal nor immoral. Sadly, we have to develop thick skins -- not just because our kids will happily embarass us in public or will do what they will regardless of our feelings, but because of the idiots who try to judge us because of our "poor" parenting skills. When you add in things like appearing to be affluent, your skin just has to be a bit tougher. As long as you know you aren't cheating anyone and that you are doing everything possible to help your child, stare them in eye and dare them to say something. It takes time and practice but you do reach the point where their opinions don't matter. [/QUOTE]
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