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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 564879" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Buddy, </p><p>No, I don't think my difficult child thought it weird at all. He knows I talk about him here on the Board. And he knows how very much I love him. I am sure he thought your graciousness was an act of kindness prompted by me. </p><p>Now...Unfortunately, his wife, daughter in law thought that perhaps you were one of "those women" lol. I tried to explain to her that you were just a very dear soul reaching out to a fellow parent's child in care. She is young and immature in ways and they have both given reason to feel insecure along the way too. </p><p></p><p>Nancy, </p><p>We are moving further North of our town. We will be renting instead of owning, sigh. We have incurred alot of debt over the past 5 yrs. We are trying hard to take our equity and pay off some things as well as widdle away at the debt. We are hoping our quality of life will improve. </p><p>Yes, There alot of changes all at once. And I am feeling rather overwhelmed. </p><p>I need to stop projecting. I look into the near future with young difficult child coming home Monday and think...Will he try and kill himself again? Will I have to call police to our home (with a for sale sign out front and the neighbors watching)? Will Young difficult child bring alcohol into our home? Try and hide it in various places like he did before? Will he get angry and break things/put holes in doors or walls? </p><p>All of these questions and more while we go through stressful changes here at home. </p><p>I so hope and pray young difficult child has a changed mind. I told daughter in law yesterday that I thought if Young difficult child can stay focused on caring for his family that he may not get emotionally bent out of shape over the way husband or Oldest difficult child talk to him. husband is not so touchy/feely like me. He states a thing rather bluntly...He is direct and sharply to the point. </p><p>Then we have Oldest difficult child who will say things in an angry tone. Young difficult child is emotionally effected by these things. He may...He may use it as an excuse to start sub abuse again. I don't know. </p><p></p><p>Recovering enabler, </p><p>I am trying to remain calm. That is all I can do...to look at the next 2 months of our lives is a bit overwhelming. I have to take it in small chunks...and one day at a time. I do feel that there will be many critical moments...important talks with young difficult child, important decisions that must be made re sale of house, where we move, etc. </p><p>I am so relieved that I have you all to talk to and learn from and share life with. </p><p></p><p>Hugs and love,</p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 564879, member: 3305"] Buddy, No, I don't think my difficult child thought it weird at all. He knows I talk about him here on the Board. And he knows how very much I love him. I am sure he thought your graciousness was an act of kindness prompted by me. Now...Unfortunately, his wife, daughter in law thought that perhaps you were one of "those women" lol. I tried to explain to her that you were just a very dear soul reaching out to a fellow parent's child in care. She is young and immature in ways and they have both given reason to feel insecure along the way too. Nancy, We are moving further North of our town. We will be renting instead of owning, sigh. We have incurred alot of debt over the past 5 yrs. We are trying hard to take our equity and pay off some things as well as widdle away at the debt. We are hoping our quality of life will improve. Yes, There alot of changes all at once. And I am feeling rather overwhelmed. I need to stop projecting. I look into the near future with young difficult child coming home Monday and think...Will he try and kill himself again? Will I have to call police to our home (with a for sale sign out front and the neighbors watching)? Will Young difficult child bring alcohol into our home? Try and hide it in various places like he did before? Will he get angry and break things/put holes in doors or walls? All of these questions and more while we go through stressful changes here at home. I so hope and pray young difficult child has a changed mind. I told daughter in law yesterday that I thought if Young difficult child can stay focused on caring for his family that he may not get emotionally bent out of shape over the way husband or Oldest difficult child talk to him. husband is not so touchy/feely like me. He states a thing rather bluntly...He is direct and sharply to the point. Then we have Oldest difficult child who will say things in an angry tone. Young difficult child is emotionally effected by these things. He may...He may use it as an excuse to start sub abuse again. I don't know. Recovering enabler, I am trying to remain calm. That is all I can do...to look at the next 2 months of our lives is a bit overwhelming. I have to take it in small chunks...and one day at a time. I do feel that there will be many critical moments...important talks with young difficult child, important decisions that must be made re sale of house, where we move, etc. I am so relieved that I have you all to talk to and learn from and share life with. Hugs and love, LMS [/QUOTE]
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