My difficult child 2 needs help in language pragmatics and social skills in general. His IEP this year is giving him social skills training for 30 minutes twice a week with the school Speech Language Pathologist (SLP). I think it's helping a bit. But there are still a lot of things he needs to work on.
Case in point, last night the two difficult child's were on the couch watching a movie. difficult child 1 has a new board game he just bought, sitting in his lap and he is looking at all the parts. A slow spot in the movie comes up and difficult child 2 loses interest briefly, looks over at what difficult child 1 has and grabs the game board from him while simultaneously saying, "What is that? I want to look at it."
Of course difficult child 1 is incensed and a fight ensues. difficult child 2 gives the board back but is upset that difficult child 1 got so angry with him. I had to get difficult child 2's attention and walk him through what he just did, asking questions to get him to think about difficult child 1's perspective on what he just did to him. Then explain the better way to deal with his curiosity and desire to see the game. He got it after my explanation, but these are things that most people just intuitively "get" without explanation.
Our hope is that the social skills classes (and our sometimes exhaustive parenting) will eventually get difficult child 2 to a place where he can make better choices about his behavior.