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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 603819" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Susie, Katie and M have made remarkable progress. And it's not that I necessarily believe the situation with this bff's mom as being katie's fault.</p><p></p><p> I've lived sexual abuse, trust me, I know how it works. What is ticking me off is that is isn't causing kaite to re-examine the parents/environments of Kayla's other friends homes and that she is approving a trip to another state with the bff who's mother was a child molester. I know these children have been placed with family, I don't know who that family is at this point.............but I do know that molestation tends to run in families as that is often how it goes from one generation to the next. If the children are with the father........Katie knows squat about the man.......if they are with other family........she knows squat about them. Know what I mean?? </p><p></p><p>I also know to trust my instincts when it comes to this sort of thing and I've as yet to be wrong. </p><p></p><p>There is an underlying current we've picked up on as we've pulled the entire family back into the extended family fold, so to speak. It reveals itself more as they become more comfortable. Katie, while she plays the helpless victim in any other aspect of life, is a tyrant within her own home with her own family. Now that this is confirmed.........other things in the past simply do not fall into place any longer. </p><p></p><p>I had realized that before this incident with the bff's mother happened. I was just waiting and watching. About all you can do with no tangible evidence of anything. </p><p></p><p>Back when Kayla was 8 a very disturbing photo of her was posted online. I don't know who did it, but I know the excuses as to how that photo was taken and posted are totally bogus. I've always known it, but with nothing else to go on my hands are tied. I know how photos have to be loaded onto myspace and fb and I have a better idea of M's reading level. He would've required help to post photos, at least until he caught on to the process. (he never posted photos often, it was a once in a great while event) Like I said, I don't know who posted or snapped that photo of Kayla, but I do know Katie's reaction to it was totally abnormal. Now I know exactly how abnormal because she is the dominant in the household, not M as she likes to portray. When it came to the photos of M online and when I copied them and took them to police......it was Katie who disposed of the computer with the ****ing evidence. (and yes, I now know she did for certain) </p><p></p><p>Just because Katie and M are making progress doesn't mean I'm naive enough to forget those things. </p><p></p><p>But I do however find it mighty coincidental the one friend Kayla practically lived with for a year or more has a mother as a molester. Could easily be coincidence, true, and I'm keeping an open mind. </p><p></p><p>However what I didn't know until just a short while ago is that Nichole casually asked Kayla why she was suddenly grounded from this bff's house (about 2 months prior to what happened). Nichole noted that Kayla would not meet her gaze and avoided answering completely. Obviously it is not the reasons Katie gave me. This is also totally out of character for Kayla. </p><p></p><p>I"m not saying it's all on Katie (whatever it is) or it's all on M, or it's both of them...........or whatever, right now I don't know. I'm just saying in this area things never added up, and now it is even more pronounced that we know the family dynamic. </p><p></p><p>Honestly? Kayla may never open up, and unless the boys were to let something slip.....we may never know what is going on behind closed doors. But if there is the slightest chance I can find out, you can be certain that I will eventually. </p><p></p><p>I can say I do suspect physical abuse might still be going on, perhaps not on the same level as when they were younger........and I have a feeling it might not be something that is done when M is around. I have good reason to suspect, just no physical evidence to act on it either. </p><p></p><p>I love Katie and I'm proud of the progress she's made and I hope it continues. But one issue really doesn't have much to do with the other. I'm more realistic than that. Know what I mean??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 603819, member: 84"] Susie, Katie and M have made remarkable progress. And it's not that I necessarily believe the situation with this bff's mom as being katie's fault. I've lived sexual abuse, trust me, I know how it works. What is ticking me off is that is isn't causing kaite to re-examine the parents/environments of Kayla's other friends homes and that she is approving a trip to another state with the bff who's mother was a child molester. I know these children have been placed with family, I don't know who that family is at this point.............but I do know that molestation tends to run in families as that is often how it goes from one generation to the next. If the children are with the father........Katie knows squat about the man.......if they are with other family........she knows squat about them. Know what I mean?? I also know to trust my instincts when it comes to this sort of thing and I've as yet to be wrong. There is an underlying current we've picked up on as we've pulled the entire family back into the extended family fold, so to speak. It reveals itself more as they become more comfortable. Katie, while she plays the helpless victim in any other aspect of life, is a tyrant within her own home with her own family. Now that this is confirmed.........other things in the past simply do not fall into place any longer. I had realized that before this incident with the bff's mother happened. I was just waiting and watching. About all you can do with no tangible evidence of anything. Back when Kayla was 8 a very disturbing photo of her was posted online. I don't know who did it, but I know the excuses as to how that photo was taken and posted are totally bogus. I've always known it, but with nothing else to go on my hands are tied. I know how photos have to be loaded onto myspace and fb and I have a better idea of M's reading level. He would've required help to post photos, at least until he caught on to the process. (he never posted photos often, it was a once in a great while event) Like I said, I don't know who posted or snapped that photo of Kayla, but I do know Katie's reaction to it was totally abnormal. Now I know exactly how abnormal because she is the dominant in the household, not M as she likes to portray. When it came to the photos of M online and when I copied them and took them to police......it was Katie who disposed of the computer with the ****ing evidence. (and yes, I now know she did for certain) Just because Katie and M are making progress doesn't mean I'm naive enough to forget those things. But I do however find it mighty coincidental the one friend Kayla practically lived with for a year or more has a mother as a molester. Could easily be coincidence, true, and I'm keeping an open mind. However what I didn't know until just a short while ago is that Nichole casually asked Kayla why she was suddenly grounded from this bff's house (about 2 months prior to what happened). Nichole noted that Kayla would not meet her gaze and avoided answering completely. Obviously it is not the reasons Katie gave me. This is also totally out of character for Kayla. I"m not saying it's all on Katie (whatever it is) or it's all on M, or it's both of them...........or whatever, right now I don't know. I'm just saying in this area things never added up, and now it is even more pronounced that we know the family dynamic. Honestly? Kayla may never open up, and unless the boys were to let something slip.....we may never know what is going on behind closed doors. But if there is the slightest chance I can find out, you can be certain that I will eventually. I can say I do suspect physical abuse might still be going on, perhaps not on the same level as when they were younger........and I have a feeling it might not be something that is done when M is around. I have good reason to suspect, just no physical evidence to act on it either. I love Katie and I'm proud of the progress she's made and I hope it continues. But one issue really doesn't have much to do with the other. I'm more realistic than that. Know what I mean?? [/QUOTE]
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