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<blockquote data-quote="muttmeister" data-source="post: 223598" data-attributes="member: 135"><p>I'm somebody who has always loved Christmas but, as a single mom with two difficult children, we definitely had some difficult ones. </p><p>I've never thought of myself as a terribly religious person, although I do identify myself as a Christian, but I always thought that, given the message of Christmas, unconditional love was something I could try to show. I think I did try to make the Christmas message part of our Christmas. No matter how bad you are, if Jesus can forgive you, then I'll try to too.</p><p>We had Christmases with psychiatric docs, Christmases with little money, Christmases with drunks, Christmases with fights. One Christmas difficult child 1 snuck out of his room before dawn and spend the day away as he didn't want to spend it with us. But I just kept trying. The presents weren't alwyas expensive, but we had some. The food wasn't always gourmet, but we ate in the holiday spirit. The decorations may have been a little worn and tattered, but they were ours.</p><p>This year difficult child 2 will spend Christmas in jail, Thankfully, Thursday is visiting day so we will get to spend half an hour with him. He is there because he chose not to do what he was supposed to do. Hopefully he is learning. If not, he knows that, while we don't condone his stupidity, we love him anyway.</p><p>Now that my difficult children are older, I am thankful that I made an attempt to celebrate the holiday every year.</p><p>The best Christmas present I ever got was last year: difficult child and friends were here; had been partying in his old room. They left and I was cleaning up so I gathered up the dirty glasses in his room and washe them. When he came back he was very angry that I had dumped his drink. He yelled. I told him I was sorry and that I was just trying to clean up. He got a thoughtful look on his face and apologized and gave me a hug. That was probably the first hug I'd gotten from him since he was 3. He is much better this year, thanks to maturity and medication. He still goes off occasionally but I see improvement. What better Christmas present could I get?</p><p>We will celebrate this year, even though difficult child 2 is in jail; even thoug difficult child 1 is not working up to his potential; even though we are short on funds; even though at least one of the difficult children has a significant other of whom I don't approve. No matter how hard you work, Christmas will not be perfect. Do what you can do, forget the rest, and try to remember the reason for the season.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="muttmeister, post: 223598, member: 135"] I'm somebody who has always loved Christmas but, as a single mom with two difficult children, we definitely had some difficult ones. I've never thought of myself as a terribly religious person, although I do identify myself as a Christian, but I always thought that, given the message of Christmas, unconditional love was something I could try to show. I think I did try to make the Christmas message part of our Christmas. No matter how bad you are, if Jesus can forgive you, then I'll try to too. We had Christmases with psychiatric docs, Christmases with little money, Christmases with drunks, Christmases with fights. One Christmas difficult child 1 snuck out of his room before dawn and spend the day away as he didn't want to spend it with us. But I just kept trying. The presents weren't alwyas expensive, but we had some. The food wasn't always gourmet, but we ate in the holiday spirit. The decorations may have been a little worn and tattered, but they were ours. This year difficult child 2 will spend Christmas in jail, Thankfully, Thursday is visiting day so we will get to spend half an hour with him. He is there because he chose not to do what he was supposed to do. Hopefully he is learning. If not, he knows that, while we don't condone his stupidity, we love him anyway. Now that my difficult children are older, I am thankful that I made an attempt to celebrate the holiday every year. The best Christmas present I ever got was last year: difficult child and friends were here; had been partying in his old room. They left and I was cleaning up so I gathered up the dirty glasses in his room and washe them. When he came back he was very angry that I had dumped his drink. He yelled. I told him I was sorry and that I was just trying to clean up. He got a thoughtful look on his face and apologized and gave me a hug. That was probably the first hug I'd gotten from him since he was 3. He is much better this year, thanks to maturity and medication. He still goes off occasionally but I see improvement. What better Christmas present could I get? We will celebrate this year, even though difficult child 2 is in jail; even thoug difficult child 1 is not working up to his potential; even though we are short on funds; even though at least one of the difficult children has a significant other of whom I don't approve. No matter how hard you work, Christmas will not be perfect. Do what you can do, forget the rest, and try to remember the reason for the season. [/QUOTE]
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