It went, I would not say smoothly but it went. Up untill and even after we walked in the door, husband kept asking why he could not just come home and do outpt and then do the inpt that is closer to home. I got to the point that I said we already had this conversation. I would say anything after that. He was signing the papers and all and the gentleman doing the admit gave him the code of conduct for the facility and said that husband could look it over later. husband said he was not f ing going anywhere untill he read that. So he read it, asked a few questions, and agreed. I do have to say the guy handled it really well. His personal counselor looks like someone husband will get along with, so that is good.
I left to go get husband a phone card and to get the kids something to eat, and husband called. I had given them my klonopin not his (does that speak to my frame of mind or what??) so when I went back to give him the phone card and get my medications, he was in the back and they were going through his stuff, including the medications. He is not to have benzos, so I took both bottles of klonopin home. He was in the middle of signing the release of information forms for his doctors and they gave him one to sign for me. He did not want to sign it, was adamantly refusing to sign it. The lady told him that if he did not sign it they could not even tell me if he was there. So I told him then I could not even have the kids call him and he signed it. I do not know if this will work or not, it is up to him. He wants to transfer to the facility closer to us when they have a bed there, and that is between him and the facility. I am worried that he will be more than they can handle, they are a substance abuse treatment program and not a dual diagnosis facility, and did not even know what some of his medications were for, they were looking them up in a drug book. They had never heard of cogentin, zyprexa, or doxepin. I told them what they were, then they looked them up and I was right. I know they had to look them up, but it was kinda funny that I was right.
As for the visiting every weekend? It would be one day not two, and I feel that in order for him to feel supported and not abandoned that we will go once a week. They also do family groups on Saturdays, so that would be a really good day to go. I really do not know how this will turn out, but it is last ditch chance for my kids to get back the dad they used to have and for me to have a fairly semi normal marriage. I realize that with the BiPolar (BP) and fibro things will alwasy be up and down, but I can handle that. I cannot tolerate the drug use and especially the drug dealing. So we will see.
Thank you all for your support. It has meant a lot to me, and has been very helpful.