Hi there, ladies. I haven't been on in a while because it seemed with his new therapist that he'd been having fewer, shorter rages. That's the goal. Well, this last few weeks have been so overwhelming. His 9th birthday was this month and I think maybe his anxiety over that caused some of the behaviors, but I'm not sure. In one week he defecated 3 times in his pants and had an all day rage that led to his dad having to miss school to come home for. New hole in the wall. New rants about him hating me and saying he was going to move to his biomom's. Said he'd walk there if he has to. Screaming. Lots of bullying. He also told his dad that he hated him and that his biomom's husband is his "real" dad. This past weekend was hers. We knew that she was going to fill him full of nonsense because she was mad at husband for not agreeing to her having an extra day every other week (with her stipulation that he drops off and picks up, which would we all around not following the decree and going the extra mile for her, which never ends well for anyone) and she said it outright in an email. So, difficult child gets home and yesterday he starts up with an additude and gets himself grounded again. Then comes the rage. He screams at me that he is moving out of here when he turns 16. I'd been keeping quiet and not engaging, but I had to probe him because he only tells the truth about what she says when he is mad and screaming it at us. I asked "why 16?". He replied that his Mother had told him that he needed to get out of here before he turned 16 and that he could go live with her then. (She also told him a month ago about how she pays child support. Yeah, the whole $50 she sometimes makes payments on, she's thousands in arrears. He didn't even know what child support was before this, and now claims that husband spends it all on himself.) He also told husband later that his Mother told him she was going to buy him a cell phone and a car when he turns 16 and moves in with her. I'm irrate. I don't expect anything less from her, but REALLY? Like he doesn't have enough issues to deal with without arming him with all of these thoughts? Way to undermine anything we've progressed on!!! I've realize that she is a narcissist which is close to psychopath diagnosis. The kicker? She doesn't even want him. She can't handle him! And I am having a really hard time right now dealing with two people who have disorders who's main objective is to be hostile and disrupt our entire family. I just want to cry. I mean, life goes on but right now I feel like they've broken me. All of the lies she tells him he WANTS to hear and they feed off of eachother. That's how it feels, anyways.