Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Concerned about difficult child coming home
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 340088" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>I'm rather confused with all this......you start off by saying he's not into drugs. He told you he tried huffing, but could'n't get it right (not sure I would buy that one) but then he has had a conversation about wanting to start smoking pot and occasionally due cocaine???? What kind of conversation is that for a boy who by your own words "hasn't gotten into drugs"? He's kinda living in a fantasy it seems.</p><p> </p><p>I wouldn't be focusing on the "father" issue at this point because it's mute. I would be focusing on the drug issue. Sounds like he's given this some thought because he's admitted it to you. While he was doing the illegal acts, was he ever drug tested?</p><p> </p><p>Have you shared these words of his with his docs? Sounds to me like he's planning on coming home and doing what he wants. Sounds like a serious plan of action need to start being made. You need to decide where you draw your line in the sand and then go from there. I would imagine you will begin with his going back to school - from there I would set my school expectations. Then the social expectations. Will he be allowed social privilages during the week or just on the weekend? What will the parole guidelines be that you can tap onto? Will he have use of a cell phone? I think you need to start putting your expectations down and begin to share those with him and his doctor. I think this young man needs to know what life will be like when he gets out. I agree with you that he appears to think he just go on as before without consequence. I think it's up to you to stay strong and lay down the law.</p><p> </p><p>By the way, how's the independent contracting going?</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 340088, member: 805"] I'm rather confused with all this......you start off by saying he's not into drugs. He told you he tried huffing, but could'n't get it right (not sure I would buy that one) but then he has had a conversation about wanting to start smoking pot and occasionally due cocaine???? What kind of conversation is that for a boy who by your own words "hasn't gotten into drugs"? He's kinda living in a fantasy it seems. I wouldn't be focusing on the "father" issue at this point because it's mute. I would be focusing on the drug issue. Sounds like he's given this some thought because he's admitted it to you. While he was doing the illegal acts, was he ever drug tested? Have you shared these words of his with his docs? Sounds to me like he's planning on coming home and doing what he wants. Sounds like a serious plan of action need to start being made. You need to decide where you draw your line in the sand and then go from there. I would imagine you will begin with his going back to school - from there I would set my school expectations. Then the social expectations. Will he be allowed social privilages during the week or just on the weekend? What will the parole guidelines be that you can tap onto? Will he have use of a cell phone? I think you need to start putting your expectations down and begin to share those with him and his doctor. I think this young man needs to know what life will be like when he gets out. I agree with you that he appears to think he just go on as before without consequence. I think it's up to you to stay strong and lay down the law. By the way, how's the independent contracting going? Sharon [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Concerned about difficult child coming home
Top