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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 212559" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Beth, </p><p> </p><p>Here is my thought for what it's worth. I chose not to when approached. I thought it would be a chance for me to give back to a crippled and deteiorating system and be a good voice for a small person. </p><p> </p><p>I talked it over with my psychologist and he was in all of the above mentioned guardian ad litem, CASA etc. programs. He worked with the prison systems and counseled the prisioners within the prison (really sick people serial murderers etc) and spoke with their children. </p><p> </p><p>His point to me was that I wasn't ready to become what the system was asking for in sheeps clothing. He said a lot of agencies have needs and make the position sound so helpful like you are really going to make a difference, and then you get a romantic notion that you'll save even just ONE life - and go for it. Then you get in it and you're up to your neck in muck, and once you meet the kids you feel you can't walk away - they NEED you. </p><p> </p><p>There are a lot of sickos in this world. I was married to one of them and we went through He77 on earth and to some degree 18 years later still are. The problem is not in your wanting to help and make a change. The problem is in the fact that you can make bigger changes by writing your congressmen or legislators and people rarely do that for the obvious reasons that it probably won't change a thing. Yet these agencies deal with kids that are so much more damaged than either Dude or I was and they'll tell you "those won't be your cases" - but they will. They can't predict what families are or aren't going to do and most of the families are SO dysfunctional you will find yourself in the middle of THEIR drama over and over. </p><p> </p><p>I've been at this a long time - with one child. I'm worn out, I'm tired, I hate the system, I do write those I've mentioned all the time and try to change things for the better - but I know in my heart that unlike my psychiatrist - I could NOT go home and turn it all off in my head. I don't have training for that. I relive day to day dramas with my own child and own life and abuse on occasion, so I had to ask myself if I really would be the best person FOR a child who is in need. Could I leave work/volunteering problems at the office or would I take it to heart and take them home? I know the answer - so I declined the invitation to help. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe it would be different for you. Maybe you would get in with cases that were just run of the mill needs. But ask yourself "What if" and then make your choice from there. I am not telling you not to do it. I'm just trying to bring a different light to the round table discussion. (Albeit a large, oily torch from the reniassance) because our systems values ARE that old. </p><p> </p><p>Just another idea - not a wrong or right one....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 212559, member: 4964"] Beth, Here is my thought for what it's worth. I chose not to when approached. I thought it would be a chance for me to give back to a crippled and deteiorating system and be a good voice for a small person. I talked it over with my psychologist and he was in all of the above mentioned guardian ad litem, CASA etc. programs. He worked with the prison systems and counseled the prisioners within the prison (really sick people serial murderers etc) and spoke with their children. His point to me was that I wasn't ready to become what the system was asking for in sheeps clothing. He said a lot of agencies have needs and make the position sound so helpful like you are really going to make a difference, and then you get a romantic notion that you'll save even just ONE life - and go for it. Then you get in it and you're up to your neck in muck, and once you meet the kids you feel you can't walk away - they NEED you. There are a lot of sickos in this world. I was married to one of them and we went through He77 on earth and to some degree 18 years later still are. The problem is not in your wanting to help and make a change. The problem is in the fact that you can make bigger changes by writing your congressmen or legislators and people rarely do that for the obvious reasons that it probably won't change a thing. Yet these agencies deal with kids that are so much more damaged than either Dude or I was and they'll tell you "those won't be your cases" - but they will. They can't predict what families are or aren't going to do and most of the families are SO dysfunctional you will find yourself in the middle of THEIR drama over and over. I've been at this a long time - with one child. I'm worn out, I'm tired, I hate the system, I do write those I've mentioned all the time and try to change things for the better - but I know in my heart that unlike my psychiatrist - I could NOT go home and turn it all off in my head. I don't have training for that. I relive day to day dramas with my own child and own life and abuse on occasion, so I had to ask myself if I really would be the best person FOR a child who is in need. Could I leave work/volunteering problems at the office or would I take it to heart and take them home? I know the answer - so I declined the invitation to help. Maybe it would be different for you. Maybe you would get in with cases that were just run of the mill needs. But ask yourself "What if" and then make your choice from there. I am not telling you not to do it. I'm just trying to bring a different light to the round table discussion. (Albeit a large, oily torch from the reniassance) because our systems values ARE that old. Just another idea - not a wrong or right one.... [/QUOTE]
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