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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 329278"><p>Mattsmom...wow...I see you have "been there done that."</p><p>Daisy...some gfgness is seeping through. All attempts at hiding it are starting to fall apart. I am reminded of AA's motto: You are as sick as your secrets.</p><p></p><p>-------</p><p></p><p>The funny thing is that I'm not super organized. I guess I am a planner though. I do like a schedule. I am totally flexible. I like some idea of what knowing what is going on. Otherwise, it's total chaos all around. And of course, since I am over 40, would also like to provide some input. And perhaps age and experience, helps me to empathize.</p><p></p><p>I HAVE noticed that if you are totally unorganized, others can manipulate you, and the weird thing about this situation...is that we got both situations going on at the same time...one totally laid back person and one manipulative person...each at various times calling the shots...each making demands...and others going along with this. There is power that comes with larger numbers and then they also got a "momentum" going.</p><p></p><p>Then here I come along....</p><p></p><p>When you try to get a question answered, it was like nailing jello to the wall.</p><p></p><p>Ain't gonna happen...frustration all around.</p><p></p><p>Can't control other people. Only my thoughts, my reactions...my actions.</p><p></p><p>It's very unlikely that we can re-negotiate cooperation. Separate holidays seems best.</p><p></p><p>Fortunately, we've been blessed with a very smart, kind and considerate son and we are fond of our daughter in law as well. We are keeping our fingers crossed for a better outcome come future holidays.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 329278"] Mattsmom...wow...I see you have "been there done that." Daisy...some gfgness is seeping through. All attempts at hiding it are starting to fall apart. I am reminded of AA's motto: You are as sick as your secrets. ------- The funny thing is that I'm not super organized. I guess I am a planner though. I do like a schedule. I am totally flexible. I like some idea of what knowing what is going on. Otherwise, it's total chaos all around. And of course, since I am over 40, would also like to provide some input. And perhaps age and experience, helps me to empathize. I HAVE noticed that if you are totally unorganized, others can manipulate you, and the weird thing about this situation...is that we got both situations going on at the same time...one totally laid back person and one manipulative person...each at various times calling the shots...each making demands...and others going along with this. There is power that comes with larger numbers and then they also got a "momentum" going. Then here I come along.... When you try to get a question answered, it was like nailing jello to the wall. Ain't gonna happen...frustration all around. Can't control other people. Only my thoughts, my reactions...my actions. It's very unlikely that we can re-negotiate cooperation. Separate holidays seems best. Fortunately, we've been blessed with a very smart, kind and considerate son and we are fond of our daughter in law as well. We are keeping our fingers crossed for a better outcome come future holidays. [/QUOTE]
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