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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 353654" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>I did the cold feet ritual myself and in the end, it didn't do anyone a lick of good. husband (in my opinion) has suffered from MAJOR depression for quite a long time. He'd retreat into his/our room for not only hours at a time as soon as he got home from work (when he was working - another long drawn out history!), but entire weekends. I had our latest and greatest model 15 mos. ago, and he came to hospital once - he was on vacation for 2 weeks and spent the entire time on the video game. When I got home, he just constantly yelled at the kids. They weren't allowed to be children. The attention he did give them was cruel and sarcastic (sarcasm doesn't work with Apsperger kids - and I've got 3 of them!). But I kept waiting for him to come out of it. And waiting. And waiting. And waiting. </p><p> </p><p>I had to go with what was best for the kids. And I think that that is where you are now. Keep that focus. She's and adult making her choices, they can only live with the choices that you make. I am totally convinced that you're doing the right thing - you're protecting your children. That comes foremost in these situations, and trust me...I'm kicking myself for not doing this sooner - it's only been 2 weeks and I'm already seeing slight changes. They'll lower their own lights at night, they'll sleep through the night (except for that rotten little baby - lol!), they'll play with each other rather than fight (ok, let's be real - rather than fight "as much"), and they're starting to trust that I'm here for them.</p><p> </p><p>Don't wobble - you're heading down a tough path, but it's a different path not a bad one!</p><p> </p><p>Gotta hit Pathmark (major sales going on and the paycheck has to cover both houses!).</p><p> </p><p>Feel better Smiley! Feel better because it gets better!</p><p> </p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 353654, member: 3814"] I did the cold feet ritual myself and in the end, it didn't do anyone a lick of good. husband (in my opinion) has suffered from MAJOR depression for quite a long time. He'd retreat into his/our room for not only hours at a time as soon as he got home from work (when he was working - another long drawn out history!), but entire weekends. I had our latest and greatest model 15 mos. ago, and he came to hospital once - he was on vacation for 2 weeks and spent the entire time on the video game. When I got home, he just constantly yelled at the kids. They weren't allowed to be children. The attention he did give them was cruel and sarcastic (sarcasm doesn't work with Apsperger kids - and I've got 3 of them!). But I kept waiting for him to come out of it. And waiting. And waiting. And waiting. I had to go with what was best for the kids. And I think that that is where you are now. Keep that focus. She's and adult making her choices, they can only live with the choices that you make. I am totally convinced that you're doing the right thing - you're protecting your children. That comes foremost in these situations, and trust me...I'm kicking myself for not doing this sooner - it's only been 2 weeks and I'm already seeing slight changes. They'll lower their own lights at night, they'll sleep through the night (except for that rotten little baby - lol!), they'll play with each other rather than fight (ok, let's be real - rather than fight "as much"), and they're starting to trust that I'm here for them. Don't wobble - you're heading down a tough path, but it's a different path not a bad one! Gotta hit Pathmark (major sales going on and the paycheck has to cover both houses!). Feel better Smiley! Feel better because it gets better! Beth [/QUOTE]
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