zoo_keeper
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Accused difficult child of breaking into the next door neighbors garage, stealing power tools & beer from their fridge last night! I am in disbelief! He DID NOT do this. I know for a FACT he was asleep in his bed. This is the last straw in a long running feud with these neighbors.
Some necessary background:
Last spring my husband took a new, higher paying job and my family moved cross country. We bought a home in a neighborhood that was a big step up for us. Had I known the underlying culture of the place, we wouldnt have approached it with a ten foot pole! Snobbish to the umpteenth degree. I could rant for hours The really short version:
Our next door neighbors have had a problem with us since day one as we are a large, loud difficult child family. Its actually progressed to them making complaints to the home owners association (he happens to be vice president, how convenient!). Our kids cutting through their yard to get to the park that is next to them, the eyesore of our construction/remodel project, etc. Really, really superficial, nose-in-the-air, mean spirited type things.
Last May difficult child 1 was cited for trespassing and vandalism when a rage resulted in property damage to both our place and their front yard. It got real ugly, difficult child was hospitalized. She knew about difficult childs issues. I tried damage control telling her we dont take this lightly, I would write a check and suggest difficult child work off the damage for her or if she wasnt comfortable I would see to it he would volunteer for a set number of hours elsewhere. She insisted on involving the police stating Someone needs to control your children! After that she vilified difficult child 1 and our family far and wide.
We went through the whole court process where the damage was accessed as $113. Court ordered juv mental health assessment as well as a county case worker to supervise difficult child (basically their form of juvenile probation). Case worker has helped get difficult child some great services and right now he is doing great, better than at any point in the last two years. Also in August, 8 yo easy childs hit a baseball through her window (freak accident! Why me?!?). She felt the need to involve the police then too.
Fast forward to today: I answered the door to two officers who told me what happened. Originally I thought they were informing me to see if we were broken into as well but to accuse difficult child?!? Said that she said that she know difficult child did it! Due to that family's standing shes taken seriously not to mention difficult children past. He does not have the capability or the inclination to pull this off. Very emotionally immature. Asked where difficult child was last night and I told them I gave him nighttime medications at 9:30pm and he was sleeping by 11p. I am 6mo pregnant and woke up to potty and checked on him at 4am. Asked difficult child and he told them he went to bed at midnight and woke up at 8a. I informed the officers about our families history and difficult children mental illness. They asked to search the property for the tools and I told them no I would not let this women's grude against my 13yo mentally ill child harm my family any further. Said on monday the case will be turned over to the detective and not to allow difficult child to leave the house until we hear from his caseworker he is the prime suspect! I am freaking out but trying to hide it as difficult child's anxiety is in overdrive. Just barely stopped husband from storming over there. I have a call into the lawyer we used last time and also his therapist and caseworker but its saturday. What do I do? We cannot move. Our life savings and every piece of equity we have is sunk into this property.
Some necessary background:
Last spring my husband took a new, higher paying job and my family moved cross country. We bought a home in a neighborhood that was a big step up for us. Had I known the underlying culture of the place, we wouldnt have approached it with a ten foot pole! Snobbish to the umpteenth degree. I could rant for hours The really short version:
Our next door neighbors have had a problem with us since day one as we are a large, loud difficult child family. Its actually progressed to them making complaints to the home owners association (he happens to be vice president, how convenient!). Our kids cutting through their yard to get to the park that is next to them, the eyesore of our construction/remodel project, etc. Really, really superficial, nose-in-the-air, mean spirited type things.
Last May difficult child 1 was cited for trespassing and vandalism when a rage resulted in property damage to both our place and their front yard. It got real ugly, difficult child was hospitalized. She knew about difficult childs issues. I tried damage control telling her we dont take this lightly, I would write a check and suggest difficult child work off the damage for her or if she wasnt comfortable I would see to it he would volunteer for a set number of hours elsewhere. She insisted on involving the police stating Someone needs to control your children! After that she vilified difficult child 1 and our family far and wide.
We went through the whole court process where the damage was accessed as $113. Court ordered juv mental health assessment as well as a county case worker to supervise difficult child (basically their form of juvenile probation). Case worker has helped get difficult child some great services and right now he is doing great, better than at any point in the last two years. Also in August, 8 yo easy childs hit a baseball through her window (freak accident! Why me?!?). She felt the need to involve the police then too.
Fast forward to today: I answered the door to two officers who told me what happened. Originally I thought they were informing me to see if we were broken into as well but to accuse difficult child?!? Said that she said that she know difficult child did it! Due to that family's standing shes taken seriously not to mention difficult children past. He does not have the capability or the inclination to pull this off. Very emotionally immature. Asked where difficult child was last night and I told them I gave him nighttime medications at 9:30pm and he was sleeping by 11p. I am 6mo pregnant and woke up to potty and checked on him at 4am. Asked difficult child and he told them he went to bed at midnight and woke up at 8a. I informed the officers about our families history and difficult children mental illness. They asked to search the property for the tools and I told them no I would not let this women's grude against my 13yo mentally ill child harm my family any further. Said on monday the case will be turned over to the detective and not to allow difficult child to leave the house until we hear from his caseworker he is the prime suspect! I am freaking out but trying to hide it as difficult child's anxiety is in overdrive. Just barely stopped husband from storming over there. I have a call into the lawyer we used last time and also his therapist and caseworker but its saturday. What do I do? We cannot move. Our life savings and every piece of equity we have is sunk into this property.
