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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 460475" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Actually, this is kind of funny DDD. H and I are Catholics (non-practicing) and when we married, I was not allowed to be married in the church because I was divorced and would not pay thousands of dollars for an annulment in a church I didn't believe in anymore. Further, H had no interest in being married in any church, even after I had already considered a non-denominational church near our home. I think that is part of the reason his mother is unaccepting of both my children and me - she was raised a devout Catholic and although she's not a big church goer any longer, I know the rules are very ingrained in her very being. Her eyes were closed thoughout our ENTIRE ceremony. Maybe she was praying for divine intervention...I don't know. I don't care. It's been 15 years of marriage, 20 years of love - get over it.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">in my opinion, it's rude not to accept the person your child has fallen in love with and chosen as their life partner, as well as any appendages to that relationship, in this case, my children, which my H readily accepted as his mutual responsibility and helped raise. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">H says she's this way because she's a diabetic and struggles with her own clinical depression (never diagnosis'd or treated because by her own assurtions, she's got it all under control - she's a nurse, so always the nurse, never the patient). I am not buying that. I think she's mean and goes out of her way in seemingly innocuous ways to make sure she does not like or accept me or my daughters in their family. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">I have no control over her or her way of thinking, though I do have control over me and my way of thinking. I choose take the high road, so I am nice to her for my H's benefit. I may complain about her here or to in real life friends or listen to my girls want to defend my honor to her, etc., but I will not stoop to her level. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">I was raised NOT to be judgemental and TO BE accepting of all others, empathy is something I learned as an adult, but acceptance of others is something I learned growing up. There were culture clashes in my every day life that made it abundantly clear that we're all alike just as much as we're all different; we all come from the same place with different circumstances. I love that about humanity, actually.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Now, that said, I draw the line at her living with or near us. In the months ahead, she, along with her three adult children, will be deciding her future on her own, whether she moves from FL to nearby one of her children, to an assisted living or an adult community. If H entertains the idea of her moving near us for even one minute, I will have to speak up. I do not think I will be able to tolerate her along with my regular life of work, school, difficult child/easy child, caring for my own mother, being H's wife and running our own home. No way, no how. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">And there it is again, that intolerance again, lol!!!!</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 460475, member: 2211"] [COLOR=#008080][SIZE=2] Actually, this is kind of funny DDD. H and I are Catholics (non-practicing) and when we married, I was not allowed to be married in the church because I was divorced and would not pay thousands of dollars for an annulment in a church I didn't believe in anymore. Further, H had no interest in being married in any church, even after I had already considered a non-denominational church near our home. I think that is part of the reason his mother is unaccepting of both my children and me - she was raised a devout Catholic and although she's not a big church goer any longer, I know the rules are very ingrained in her very being. Her eyes were closed thoughout our ENTIRE ceremony. Maybe she was praying for divine intervention...I don't know. I don't care. It's been 15 years of marriage, 20 years of love - get over it. in my opinion, it's rude not to accept the person your child has fallen in love with and chosen as their life partner, as well as any appendages to that relationship, in this case, my children, which my H readily accepted as his mutual responsibility and helped raise. H says she's this way because she's a diabetic and struggles with her own clinical depression (never diagnosis'd or treated because by her own assurtions, she's got it all under control - she's a nurse, so always the nurse, never the patient). I am not buying that. I think she's mean and goes out of her way in seemingly innocuous ways to make sure she does not like or accept me or my daughters in their family. I have no control over her or her way of thinking, though I do have control over me and my way of thinking. I choose take the high road, so I am nice to her for my H's benefit. I may complain about her here or to in real life friends or listen to my girls want to defend my honor to her, etc., but I will not stoop to her level. I was raised NOT to be judgemental and TO BE accepting of all others, empathy is something I learned as an adult, but acceptance of others is something I learned growing up. There were culture clashes in my every day life that made it abundantly clear that we're all alike just as much as we're all different; we all come from the same place with different circumstances. I love that about humanity, actually. Now, that said, I draw the line at her living with or near us. In the months ahead, she, along with her three adult children, will be deciding her future on her own, whether she moves from FL to nearby one of her children, to an assisted living or an adult community. If H entertains the idea of her moving near us for even one minute, I will have to speak up. I do not think I will be able to tolerate her along with my regular life of work, school, difficult child/easy child, caring for my own mother, being H's wife and running our own home. No way, no how. And there it is again, that intolerance again, lol!!!![/SIZE][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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