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<blockquote data-quote="wantpeace" data-source="post: 524367" data-attributes="member: 14002"><p>Well, we went to court and I must say he was the best-dressed person there (cannot believe what people wear!), but we didn't even see the judge! The lawyer met us in the hall and said he's requesting a 2nd preliminary hearing. He had difficult child sign a paper and said he doesn't have to be there for the next hearing in June. The plea hearing won't be for six to eight weeks after that!! He said he can get a better deal if difficult child continues to do well following treatment and the longer the judge sees that he's staying out of trouble, the better. BUT if he messes up, it'll be much worse. Meanwhile, I still have my bond money out there and difficult child is pretty much on house arrest. It looks like he'll just get probation either way, so I'm not sure what this waiting game is all about. Do public defenders get more money when they drag these cases out?</p><p></p><p>If nothing else, it was a great opportunity for difficult child to see all the people waiting to go into the courtroom. I kept whispering things like, "Is this where you want to be in 10 - 20 years?" I must admit that difficult child is doing well - knock on wood. He even went back to school still dressed in his nice clothes without the stupid flat-brimmed hat that he likes to wear.</p><p></p><p>Something strange happened when I got home too. I felt an overwhelming sense of peace and I've even had the energy to start running again. I think I'm accepting that I can't control the outcome of difficult child's mistakes and his recovery. I am going to enjoy every minute of this feeling while it lasts.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for your support!</p><p></p><p>wantpeace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wantpeace, post: 524367, member: 14002"] Well, we went to court and I must say he was the best-dressed person there (cannot believe what people wear!), but we didn't even see the judge! The lawyer met us in the hall and said he's requesting a 2nd preliminary hearing. He had difficult child sign a paper and said he doesn't have to be there for the next hearing in June. The plea hearing won't be for six to eight weeks after that!! He said he can get a better deal if difficult child continues to do well following treatment and the longer the judge sees that he's staying out of trouble, the better. BUT if he messes up, it'll be much worse. Meanwhile, I still have my bond money out there and difficult child is pretty much on house arrest. It looks like he'll just get probation either way, so I'm not sure what this waiting game is all about. Do public defenders get more money when they drag these cases out? If nothing else, it was a great opportunity for difficult child to see all the people waiting to go into the courtroom. I kept whispering things like, "Is this where you want to be in 10 - 20 years?" I must admit that difficult child is doing well - knock on wood. He even went back to school still dressed in his nice clothes without the stupid flat-brimmed hat that he likes to wear. Something strange happened when I got home too. I felt an overwhelming sense of peace and I've even had the energy to start running again. I think I'm accepting that I can't control the outcome of difficult child's mistakes and his recovery. I am going to enjoy every minute of this feeling while it lasts. Thanks for your support! wantpeace [/QUOTE]
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