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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 631914" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I think this is the key. I remember hearing this in Al-Anon for the first time, and thinking WHAT? How can I not care what people think about me? But you know, unpack it, and it's really true.</p><p></p><p>People can think, and will think, whatever they want. It doesn't make it true. And you know what? I think things all the time that are fleeting thoughts and a lot of the time, that's all it is. Doesnt mean it's true or it even stays with me.</p><p></p><p>GFGland is full of friends/acquaintances/neighbors/coworkers/their former employers/people up and down the street who have an opinion about difficult child and people who have done things like difficult child has done. And they like to tell it loud and clear, that if THEIR kids ever did anything like this...blah blah blah.</p><p></p><p>They have no idea what they are talking about. I think we have to strike it up to just that.</p><p></p><p>They know not of which they speak. </p><p></p><p>I remember when I called my family, who lives out of state, to tell them ex-husband and I were getting separated. Later on, I asked my sister, what did Greg (her husband) say? (big mistake, stupid me).</p><p></p><p>She said (and I'll never forget how this struck me to the very core): He doesn't agree with it.</p><p></p><p>AGREE with it? What a thing to say. She of course, was speaking what SHE thought and out of her own fear. If my sister can get separated, could it happen to me? </p><p></p><p>That's what we do when we hear something that scares us. We pick it apart, turn it over and over, say loudly what WE would do, and then we separate ourselves from THESE PEOPLE, because we are terrified.</p><p></p><p>that's why this board is so wonderful. It's full of people who get it. Hang in there nomad. We get it, and you know what, a lot of other people just don't. </p><p></p><p>Still hurts I know, but they know not of which they speak.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 631914, member: 17542"] I think this is the key. I remember hearing this in Al-Anon for the first time, and thinking WHAT? How can I not care what people think about me? But you know, unpack it, and it's really true. People can think, and will think, whatever they want. It doesn't make it true. And you know what? I think things all the time that are fleeting thoughts and a lot of the time, that's all it is. Doesnt mean it's true or it even stays with me. GFGland is full of friends/acquaintances/neighbors/coworkers/their former employers/people up and down the street who have an opinion about difficult child and people who have done things like difficult child has done. And they like to tell it loud and clear, that if THEIR kids ever did anything like this...blah blah blah. They have no idea what they are talking about. I think we have to strike it up to just that. They know not of which they speak. I remember when I called my family, who lives out of state, to tell them ex-husband and I were getting separated. Later on, I asked my sister, what did Greg (her husband) say? (big mistake, stupid me). She said (and I'll never forget how this struck me to the very core): He doesn't agree with it. AGREE with it? What a thing to say. She of course, was speaking what SHE thought and out of her own fear. If my sister can get separated, could it happen to me? That's what we do when we hear something that scares us. We pick it apart, turn it over and over, say loudly what WE would do, and then we separate ourselves from THESE PEOPLE, because we are terrified. that's why this board is so wonderful. It's full of people who get it. Hang in there nomad. We get it, and you know what, a lot of other people just don't. Still hurts I know, but they know not of which they speak. [/QUOTE]
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