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<blockquote data-quote="mattsmom27" data-source="post: 12713" data-attributes="member: 50"><p>Thank you all. His team won this afternoon, they are going to the final game at 6p.m. I don't know why the coach set difficult child up for such disappointment. He played him just a bit last night for their games, giving his wrist a chance to rest a big more. difficult child is considered a "starter" meaning there are the main boys who play most of the game. He was on the bench this entire game. He asked half way through the game if he was going to get to play. The coach said "we'll see". At the end of the game, the coach said smile Matt, you should be happier (because they won again, they are undefeated all season now). difficult child half smiled and asked if he was going to get to play in the final game tonight. Again the response was "we'll see". I am disappointed in this coach today. difficult child was going to sit out the entire tournament if he had to for his wrist. It was the coach and him who decided his wrist was good to go and he could play, limiting it last night to ensure he would do well today up against the harder teams. difficult child was good to go this morning, wrist not bothering him much at all. At some point the coach asked for a doctors note. Well coach: first you never asked for one LAST NIGHT when you phoned my son at home from your home to make sure he came to the evening games (he had skipped the afternoon game, as he was told he was out for the tournament). difficult child had left his gear in his locker at school and the coach even drove to difficult child's school at night to pick up the gear out of difficult child's locker from him and brought it to the location for the tournament. He never mentioned it after the game last night which he did play difficult child for part of the game. </p><p>So difficult child who was on cloud nine all night and all morning is very discouraged. I tried to rally him and encourage him to attend tonight and if the coach decides to bench him at least he is supporting his team. difficult child says he doesn't want to watch the team win a big tournament and recieve a award for winning when he wasn't even allowed on the court. He is pretty angry with the coach, he says he feels lied to. I feel for him as he was resigned to sitting out this tournament until the coach said otherwise yesterday and he got so excited. Now he is refusing to attend tonight (so far anyhow, we have a few hours to hope he changes his mind) and says he is going to tell the coach that he is quitting on Monday morning. I understand difficult child's disappointment, but I don't want to see him quitting this team. He is resistent to influence at this point, I'm hoping a couple of hours back home here will calm down his anger and frustration and he will be willing to listen to reason and attend tonight. I won't "force him" as it will end up with him blowing up at the coach if the coach keeps saying "we'll see" and then doesn't play him. What a crappy situation overall. Especially because the coach is aware of difficult child's issues, his history, how hard he has worked to improve his behaviours, etc. The coach knows how important this team is to difficult child. Now I could understand if there really was concern over the injured wrist, but truly it was sore from the fall but it is fine now and the coach could obviously see that when the kids were doing warmup. </p><p>*sigh* Going to be a heck of a disappointed difficult child if he quits this team. I can't see him going out for high school teams at all if this team experience isnt good. The high school pool at tryouts is far larger and with alot of experienced players etc and difficult child was already nervous. If he isn't playing and boosting confidence this year, no way he's going to try out next year in high school.</p><p></p><p>Melissa ... feeling bruised for difficult child</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mattsmom27, post: 12713, member: 50"] Thank you all. His team won this afternoon, they are going to the final game at 6p.m. I don't know why the coach set difficult child up for such disappointment. He played him just a bit last night for their games, giving his wrist a chance to rest a big more. difficult child is considered a "starter" meaning there are the main boys who play most of the game. He was on the bench this entire game. He asked half way through the game if he was going to get to play. The coach said "we'll see". At the end of the game, the coach said smile Matt, you should be happier (because they won again, they are undefeated all season now). difficult child half smiled and asked if he was going to get to play in the final game tonight. Again the response was "we'll see". I am disappointed in this coach today. difficult child was going to sit out the entire tournament if he had to for his wrist. It was the coach and him who decided his wrist was good to go and he could play, limiting it last night to ensure he would do well today up against the harder teams. difficult child was good to go this morning, wrist not bothering him much at all. At some point the coach asked for a doctors note. Well coach: first you never asked for one LAST NIGHT when you phoned my son at home from your home to make sure he came to the evening games (he had skipped the afternoon game, as he was told he was out for the tournament). difficult child had left his gear in his locker at school and the coach even drove to difficult child's school at night to pick up the gear out of difficult child's locker from him and brought it to the location for the tournament. He never mentioned it after the game last night which he did play difficult child for part of the game. So difficult child who was on cloud nine all night and all morning is very discouraged. I tried to rally him and encourage him to attend tonight and if the coach decides to bench him at least he is supporting his team. difficult child says he doesn't want to watch the team win a big tournament and recieve a award for winning when he wasn't even allowed on the court. He is pretty angry with the coach, he says he feels lied to. I feel for him as he was resigned to sitting out this tournament until the coach said otherwise yesterday and he got so excited. Now he is refusing to attend tonight (so far anyhow, we have a few hours to hope he changes his mind) and says he is going to tell the coach that he is quitting on Monday morning. I understand difficult child's disappointment, but I don't want to see him quitting this team. He is resistent to influence at this point, I'm hoping a couple of hours back home here will calm down his anger and frustration and he will be willing to listen to reason and attend tonight. I won't "force him" as it will end up with him blowing up at the coach if the coach keeps saying "we'll see" and then doesn't play him. What a crappy situation overall. Especially because the coach is aware of difficult child's issues, his history, how hard he has worked to improve his behaviours, etc. The coach knows how important this team is to difficult child. Now I could understand if there really was concern over the injured wrist, but truly it was sore from the fall but it is fine now and the coach could obviously see that when the kids were doing warmup. *sigh* Going to be a heck of a disappointed difficult child if he quits this team. I can't see him going out for high school teams at all if this team experience isnt good. The high school pool at tryouts is far larger and with alot of experienced players etc and difficult child was already nervous. If he isn't playing and boosting confidence this year, no way he's going to try out next year in high school. Melissa ... feeling bruised for difficult child [/QUOTE]
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