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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 540991" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Well it kind of does. And I don't see anything bad in that. We don't need to be extraordinary in any way to be happy and have a good life. In fact world would end up in chaos, if anyone would not be just mediocre and ordinary. I don't see that there is anything wrong in being your ordinary engineer, plumber, nurse, hairstylist, bus driver, paper pusher, teacher, chef, janitor, farmer, physician, carpenter or police officer. All kinds of work has meaning. Yes you should take pride of your work and do it reasonably well, but you don't have to strive to be the best. Of course you should support yourself if you are able bodied and minded (or find a one who wants to do that for you), but for me it is totally okay to decide that success is not your goal. I have several friends and neighbours who have decided that their free time is more important to them than higher standards of living. They have found jobs that support them, but are not stressful and don't need long hours are concentrate to other things in their lives. Job is just a job and pays the bills. I see nothing wrong with that. And at least here you can have reasonably nice standard of living with many manufacturing etc. jobs that don't require, and never have required, you to be a straight A student or even close to it or to be otherwise driven. You just need to do things 'good enough.'</p><p></p><p>In fact I'm little worried that also my country's culture is becoming 'Americanized' and our kids start to feel they are somehow special and extraordinary. That being ordinary is not enough. And unfortunately that idea has not brought the internal drive with it, but some kids seem to think that those extraordinary things should just be handed to them. It is really scary to watch our version of American Idol there kids seem to think they should just be given 'the stardom' on the merit that they feel extraordinary. Not yet that bad as the kids on American version, but bad enough. And totally against our core cultural values, that emphasize doing your own share and not thinking too much of yourself. </p><p></p><p>And I really feel that you can not install that internal passion, that may make some extraordinary in their thing, to someone, but you are born with it. And often that drive or passion doesn't make a happy life. People who i know and who have that kind of internal passion have had it from very young. Both my dad and my difficult child were not much more than toddlers, when their passion to certain thing already came up first time. For my dad it was, and is, art, for my difficult child it's his sport. It's not just what they do, it's who they are. It haven't made my dad happy or content guy and I have my doubts that my difficult child will never be that happy and content either. And it is taxing way of life. But it is who they were born to be.</p><p></p><p>In my quest for mediocrity I almost never applied myself the best of my ability. I have some talents I have left unharvested, because they would take too much out of my happiness in ordinary. The few bouts of drivenness I have had, have usually backfired (I think I have told here how i tried being a perfect mother and almost believed it myself and how miserable, small-minded a**hole that made of me.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 540991, member: 14557"] Well it kind of does. And I don't see anything bad in that. We don't need to be extraordinary in any way to be happy and have a good life. In fact world would end up in chaos, if anyone would not be just mediocre and ordinary. I don't see that there is anything wrong in being your ordinary engineer, plumber, nurse, hairstylist, bus driver, paper pusher, teacher, chef, janitor, farmer, physician, carpenter or police officer. All kinds of work has meaning. Yes you should take pride of your work and do it reasonably well, but you don't have to strive to be the best. Of course you should support yourself if you are able bodied and minded (or find a one who wants to do that for you), but for me it is totally okay to decide that success is not your goal. I have several friends and neighbours who have decided that their free time is more important to them than higher standards of living. They have found jobs that support them, but are not stressful and don't need long hours are concentrate to other things in their lives. Job is just a job and pays the bills. I see nothing wrong with that. And at least here you can have reasonably nice standard of living with many manufacturing etc. jobs that don't require, and never have required, you to be a straight A student or even close to it or to be otherwise driven. You just need to do things 'good enough.' In fact I'm little worried that also my country's culture is becoming 'Americanized' and our kids start to feel they are somehow special and extraordinary. That being ordinary is not enough. And unfortunately that idea has not brought the internal drive with it, but some kids seem to think that those extraordinary things should just be handed to them. It is really scary to watch our version of American Idol there kids seem to think they should just be given 'the stardom' on the merit that they feel extraordinary. Not yet that bad as the kids on American version, but bad enough. And totally against our core cultural values, that emphasize doing your own share and not thinking too much of yourself. And I really feel that you can not install that internal passion, that may make some extraordinary in their thing, to someone, but you are born with it. And often that drive or passion doesn't make a happy life. People who i know and who have that kind of internal passion have had it from very young. Both my dad and my difficult child were not much more than toddlers, when their passion to certain thing already came up first time. For my dad it was, and is, art, for my difficult child it's his sport. It's not just what they do, it's who they are. It haven't made my dad happy or content guy and I have my doubts that my difficult child will never be that happy and content either. And it is taxing way of life. But it is who they were born to be. In my quest for mediocrity I almost never applied myself the best of my ability. I have some talents I have left unharvested, because they would take too much out of my happiness in ordinary. The few bouts of drivenness I have had, have usually backfired (I think I have told here how i tried being a perfect mother and almost believed it myself and how miserable, small-minded a**hole that made of me.) [/QUOTE]
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