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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 541027" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Maybe this is language issue? To my native language (and language has very much to do in how we think) mediocre translate to same as average. Middle of the pack, good enough, not great, not bad. And for me, middle is a great place to be <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I meant giving your 100 % effort for something at that moment. 100 % for work, when you are at work, 100 % for your home life when you are at home and maybe 100 % for yourself, when you do that. For me that sounds just too exhausting. At work I usually give enough effort to get my tasks done in time and with good enough (B+ or A- maybe?) level but I also may spend time just talking with my co-workers at time and not being efficient at all. Or I doodle or check my Fb or something. If I would give it my all, I could do my tasks in shorter time and even little better. At home I may well just sit reading newspaper and scratching a dog with my toe and tell my husband to find his own socks by himself and easy child to go and entertain himself instead of telling me he is bored and expecting me to solve that for him instead of giving my 100 % effort for house work, being a nice spouse, supportive and committed mother or even active dog owner. And even with my me-time I'm certainly not only spending it taking enlightening yoga lessons to best recharge myself to challenges of my work and family <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>And if my easy child can do homework half an hour a day and make those good enough marks around 90, that he is making, I don't really see a reason why he should really apply himself, do for example 3 hours a day homework to get grades up to 95-97. I can easily see, that he doesn't feel it is worth it to go up from top 5 % to top 1 %, when you would have to work so much more. Whatever his goals will end up to be academically, that 90 is going to be good enough. And for most things 80 would be enough. </p><p></p><p>My point of view has a lot to do with living with people, who really have that internal drive. Who have a passion to give their 100 % to something. And seeing how much that kind of passion takes from the person. As I said, I have learned to admire it, but I also know it is not for me and I'm happy that my easy child isn't as high-strung as his brother. being more laid back may mean that easy child achieves less traditional success, but I also believe it will make easy child much happier person.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 541027, member: 14557"] Maybe this is language issue? To my native language (and language has very much to do in how we think) mediocre translate to same as average. Middle of the pack, good enough, not great, not bad. And for me, middle is a great place to be ;) I meant giving your 100 % effort for something at that moment. 100 % for work, when you are at work, 100 % for your home life when you are at home and maybe 100 % for yourself, when you do that. For me that sounds just too exhausting. At work I usually give enough effort to get my tasks done in time and with good enough (B+ or A- maybe?) level but I also may spend time just talking with my co-workers at time and not being efficient at all. Or I doodle or check my Fb or something. If I would give it my all, I could do my tasks in shorter time and even little better. At home I may well just sit reading newspaper and scratching a dog with my toe and tell my husband to find his own socks by himself and easy child to go and entertain himself instead of telling me he is bored and expecting me to solve that for him instead of giving my 100 % effort for house work, being a nice spouse, supportive and committed mother or even active dog owner. And even with my me-time I'm certainly not only spending it taking enlightening yoga lessons to best recharge myself to challenges of my work and family :winking: And if my easy child can do homework half an hour a day and make those good enough marks around 90, that he is making, I don't really see a reason why he should really apply himself, do for example 3 hours a day homework to get grades up to 95-97. I can easily see, that he doesn't feel it is worth it to go up from top 5 % to top 1 %, when you would have to work so much more. Whatever his goals will end up to be academically, that 90 is going to be good enough. And for most things 80 would be enough. My point of view has a lot to do with living with people, who really have that internal drive. Who have a passion to give their 100 % to something. And seeing how much that kind of passion takes from the person. As I said, I have learned to admire it, but I also know it is not for me and I'm happy that my easy child isn't as high-strung as his brother. being more laid back may mean that easy child achieves less traditional success, but I also believe it will make easy child much happier person. [/QUOTE]
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