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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 317548" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Ever tried cooking them in the microwave? The DVDs, I mean...</p><p></p><p>The difficult child watching porn, I presume it's the 15 yo? Because looking at porn is something that teenage boys will just about ALL try to do, at some stage.</p><p></p><p>When difficult child 1 went through the porn-watching stage, I did not destroy the stuff. Instead I sat down with him and analysed it. There's nothing so off-putting as looking at YOUR porn with your mother, especially when she then makes you look up "dead porn stars" online. If you Google it (within double quote marks) and then look for the "frances farmer's revenge" link, you will find a long list of porn stars, male and female, with the cause of death and date of death next to their names. There are some photos including female topless pics so be warned. However, you already know he's been looking at this stuff, right? And looking at it knowing these people have died, often way too young and for reasons connected in some way to their involvement in porn, can be more effective at putting him off porn than any number of parental bans and destruction of DVDs.</p><p></p><p>You can't find them all. He will have a better hiding place next time. And there will be a next time.</p><p></p><p>But if you can be inside his head next time and help him realise just how destructive and exploitative porn is, to those who choose it, then you will be turning this into a very effective lesson in the negative aspects and often criminally exploitative nature of the porn industry. People get into porn out of desperation to be famous; desperation to make a lot of money quickly (often linked to a drug habit or other illegal activity) and find they can't always get out of it so easily. The porn industry is very wasteful of people. Male stars tend to last longer but the female stars tend to get chewed up and spat out after only a year or two. There are always more girls waiting in line for their chance - younger, prettier, looking more innocent. The young, innocent and pretty ones don't look that way for long.</p><p></p><p>You could even choose a name here or there and look them up in Wikipedia for even more detailed information on how they died, and why. Do a bit of homework yourself, first, so you won't get any nasty surprises with him sitting next to you.</p><p></p><p>A lot of people go into porn to make a few extra dollars to pay the rent, then find themselves trapped by drugs, by crime, by exploitation and finally by self-loathing. There are exceptions - people who made their pile of money from porn then got out without it tainting them. But they are in the minority.</p><p></p><p>Your aim in this, is for difficult child, next time he looks at porn, to only see that parade of names of the dead and the reasons for their premature demises. He needs to learn just how destructive the porn INDUSTRY is, to those whose faces and bodies he's ogling.</p><p></p><p>This is a somewhat more socially responsible form of aversion therapy than the principle of making a kid smoke the contents of a pack of cigarettes you found on him.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 317548, member: 1991"] Ever tried cooking them in the microwave? The DVDs, I mean... The difficult child watching porn, I presume it's the 15 yo? Because looking at porn is something that teenage boys will just about ALL try to do, at some stage. When difficult child 1 went through the porn-watching stage, I did not destroy the stuff. Instead I sat down with him and analysed it. There's nothing so off-putting as looking at YOUR porn with your mother, especially when she then makes you look up "dead porn stars" online. If you Google it (within double quote marks) and then look for the "frances farmer's revenge" link, you will find a long list of porn stars, male and female, with the cause of death and date of death next to their names. There are some photos including female topless pics so be warned. However, you already know he's been looking at this stuff, right? And looking at it knowing these people have died, often way too young and for reasons connected in some way to their involvement in porn, can be more effective at putting him off porn than any number of parental bans and destruction of DVDs. You can't find them all. He will have a better hiding place next time. And there will be a next time. But if you can be inside his head next time and help him realise just how destructive and exploitative porn is, to those who choose it, then you will be turning this into a very effective lesson in the negative aspects and often criminally exploitative nature of the porn industry. People get into porn out of desperation to be famous; desperation to make a lot of money quickly (often linked to a drug habit or other illegal activity) and find they can't always get out of it so easily. The porn industry is very wasteful of people. Male stars tend to last longer but the female stars tend to get chewed up and spat out after only a year or two. There are always more girls waiting in line for their chance - younger, prettier, looking more innocent. The young, innocent and pretty ones don't look that way for long. You could even choose a name here or there and look them up in Wikipedia for even more detailed information on how they died, and why. Do a bit of homework yourself, first, so you won't get any nasty surprises with him sitting next to you. A lot of people go into porn to make a few extra dollars to pay the rent, then find themselves trapped by drugs, by crime, by exploitation and finally by self-loathing. There are exceptions - people who made their pile of money from porn then got out without it tainting them. But they are in the minority. Your aim in this, is for difficult child, next time he looks at porn, to only see that parade of names of the dead and the reasons for their premature demises. He needs to learn just how destructive the porn INDUSTRY is, to those whose faces and bodies he's ogling. This is a somewhat more socially responsible form of aversion therapy than the principle of making a kid smoke the contents of a pack of cigarettes you found on him. Marg [/QUOTE]
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