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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 192150" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi. I'm a multiply adoptive mom. It sounds like those kids went through a lot before they came to you and it is natural they would have attachment issues. Have they ever been totally evaluated by, say, a neuropsychologist? We did that as soon as we got our older adopted children (one came at two, one at six) and kept doing it. You may be told to see an attachment therapist. Your hub would participate. From one who has been through it, attachment to an older child does not always come as easily as to an infant who adores you. Men are often a lot less willing to work at it than women. I think a good evaluation would be a great start. </p><p>The child who came to us at six was different to us than our other kids. I did not always love him, nor did it come as easily as it did for my younger kids (the one I gave birth to and the ones who were two and under when they came to us). I'm sorry we didn't do attachment therapy. We are not close now...he really had a hard time with his identity and he's thirty...I'd explore this further. This particular son of ours went his own way as an adult and we don't see him. I'm very close to the kids who came to me as infants (and the one who came at two is close to us as well).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 192150, member: 1550"] Hi. I'm a multiply adoptive mom. It sounds like those kids went through a lot before they came to you and it is natural they would have attachment issues. Have they ever been totally evaluated by, say, a neuropsychologist? We did that as soon as we got our older adopted children (one came at two, one at six) and kept doing it. You may be told to see an attachment therapist. Your hub would participate. From one who has been through it, attachment to an older child does not always come as easily as to an infant who adores you. Men are often a lot less willing to work at it than women. I think a good evaluation would be a great start. The child who came to us at six was different to us than our other kids. I did not always love him, nor did it come as easily as it did for my younger kids (the one I gave birth to and the ones who were two and under when they came to us). I'm sorry we didn't do attachment therapy. We are not close now...he really had a hard time with his identity and he's thirty...I'd explore this further. This particular son of ours went his own way as an adult and we don't see him. I'm very close to the kids who came to me as infants (and the one who came at two is close to us as well). [/QUOTE]
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