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<blockquote data-quote="RhondaVoos" data-source="post: 192384" data-attributes="member: 5868"><p>I am aware that my daughter and possibly my son were sexually abused in the first foster home that they were in. Son was kept in a playpen with a plywood lid, I can't begin to tell you what they went through. It's hard to tell what of their experiences has any bearing on this current issue between husband and difficult child son, so I didn't include that. I don't think it has any bearing on this situation. </p><p> </p><p>The kids were diagnosed with lots of things, mostly just missed clinical criteria, but Phsychiatrist concluded that there were "issues" with conduct, attachment, personality etc. Most of these issues are not currently being displayed. (they have been with us for 6 years) I know that they will continue to struggle with this, but for now, the biggy is the battle between husband and difficult child son. </p><p> </p><p>I see the phsychiatrist Wednesday and am going to tell him that we need to do something with the medications (currently taking 54 mg of Concerta, 52 lb child!) Last visit when we talked about the anger problems and defiance, he wanted to add Risperdal. I balked at adding more medications, but now am ready to try. My son's quality of life stinks right now. He is not succeeding in school or at home and it is affecting his self image. He was doing better at school with 72 mg of Concerta, but his rages were legendary! His record for a tantrum was 4 hours and 20 minutes. Does anyone else have this problem? Get the hyperactivity under control only to lose control of temper? </p><p> </p><p>Most of his stealing at home is food, which I understand from this site may be called amphetamine rebound. He does <u>always</u> steal sugar or carbs in the night. Usually he takes a bite or two and hides the rest. He eats like a farm hand during the day, the medications don't seem to have affected his appetite. </p><p> </p><p>I think that difficult child son doing things that he knows husband is going to react to in a predictable way makes him feel powerful and in control. Like he is the puppet master. I get why he does these things, I don't get why husband can't see it and stop responding to it. He was able to do it with difficult child daughter (he told me when they first came that 6 year old girls were not manipulative!!!) and he think the sun rises from her backside. This is the first year that I think so sometimes too. She still occasionally falls back on the role of victim, using what she has been through as an excuse for the things she does. But mostly, she is just happy to have a forever family. Still manipulative sometimes (she <u>is</u> female) but she is really shining this year emotionally, we are still struggling in school, progress reports came out today, 2 Fs and a D+(boohoo) the rest of her grades were Bs! (woohoo)</p><p>She was more disappointed than I was in the Fs and D, so I just asked her what her plan was for bringing the grades up. She already had a plan. How great is that???</p><p> </p><p>Sorry this is so long, it has been a long road for all of us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RhondaVoos, post: 192384, member: 5868"] I am aware that my daughter and possibly my son were sexually abused in the first foster home that they were in. Son was kept in a playpen with a plywood lid, I can't begin to tell you what they went through. It's hard to tell what of their experiences has any bearing on this current issue between husband and difficult child son, so I didn't include that. I don't think it has any bearing on this situation. The kids were diagnosed with lots of things, mostly just missed clinical criteria, but Phsychiatrist concluded that there were "issues" with conduct, attachment, personality etc. Most of these issues are not currently being displayed. (they have been with us for 6 years) I know that they will continue to struggle with this, but for now, the biggy is the battle between husband and difficult child son. I see the phsychiatrist Wednesday and am going to tell him that we need to do something with the medications (currently taking 54 mg of Concerta, 52 lb child!) Last visit when we talked about the anger problems and defiance, he wanted to add Risperdal. I balked at adding more medications, but now am ready to try. My son's quality of life stinks right now. He is not succeeding in school or at home and it is affecting his self image. He was doing better at school with 72 mg of Concerta, but his rages were legendary! His record for a tantrum was 4 hours and 20 minutes. Does anyone else have this problem? Get the hyperactivity under control only to lose control of temper? Most of his stealing at home is food, which I understand from this site may be called amphetamine rebound. He does [U]always[/U] steal sugar or carbs in the night. Usually he takes a bite or two and hides the rest. He eats like a farm hand during the day, the medications don't seem to have affected his appetite. I think that difficult child son doing things that he knows husband is going to react to in a predictable way makes him feel powerful and in control. Like he is the puppet master. I get why he does these things, I don't get why husband can't see it and stop responding to it. He was able to do it with difficult child daughter (he told me when they first came that 6 year old girls were not manipulative!!!) and he think the sun rises from her backside. This is the first year that I think so sometimes too. She still occasionally falls back on the role of victim, using what she has been through as an excuse for the things she does. But mostly, she is just happy to have a forever family. Still manipulative sometimes (she [U]is[/U] female) but she is really shining this year emotionally, we are still struggling in school, progress reports came out today, 2 Fs and a D+(boohoo) the rest of her grades were Bs! (woohoo) She was more disappointed than I was in the Fs and D, so I just asked her what her plan was for bringing the grades up. She already had a plan. How great is that??? Sorry this is so long, it has been a long road for all of us. [/QUOTE]
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