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Daughter does it again! Long angry rant (LAR).
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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 190575" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>I started to reply to this earlier, but got side-tracked... anyway, Loth said it MUCH better than I had started to!</p><p> </p><p>I've also been there with my difficult child 1, but that was two years ago when he was 11 1/2 and was very ill and only weighed 57 pounds so I was still able to overpower him (and it was ME dragging HIM into a lab for bloodwork). I will never forget my sense of anger, frustration, embarassment, humiliation -- the whole ball of wax, as complete strangers watched slack-jawed while I tried to pry his fingers from the hand rail as he dissolved into a screaming, writhing puddle of limbs on the ground. It was just awful. </p><p> </p><p>After that, I had a long, insistent conversation with our psychiatrist asking for help so that he could get through these situations without such horrific drama. For my kid, Ativan was the magic bullet, and then guided imagery was added later, and then an SSRI to address his innate anxiety that pushed him over that edge into phobic-land. I'm happy to report that two years later, he manages these situations without the Ativan. Doesn't mean he doesn't get upset, but he copes SO much better and he feels more in control of himself. It's been good for everyone.</p><p> </p><p>I hope once you calm down a bit you can reach her to talk about what you two just went through and begin working on a plan to improve the outcome for next time. There are lots of different ways to approach it, but the key is finding what works for her AND you.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs!</p><p> </p><p>And just to add a little post script here...</p><p> </p><p>I found it to be IMMENSELY helpful to get the clinician (whether it be the phlebotomist, the dentist, the IV nurse, etc.) up to speed on my kid's basic history/issues as it relates to the procedure at hand. I drafted a "To Whom It May Concern" letter explaining his phobia, the best way to handle him for a successful outcome, and the consequences for choosing to ignore his needs (like a frantic, uncooperative kid having a panic attack, vomiting, hyperventilating, screaming, kicking, etc., as well as the likelihood of a FAILED appointment -- translation, a waste of everyone's time). I simply handed it to the front desk at check in and made sure everyone understood before I took him back to wherever the procedure was being done. Let me tell you, it made a WORLD of difference in everyone's attitude (they were very appreciative), and there were absolutely no surprises. Forewarned is fore-armed!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 190575, member: 3444"] I started to reply to this earlier, but got side-tracked... anyway, Loth said it MUCH better than I had started to! I've also been there with my difficult child 1, but that was two years ago when he was 11 1/2 and was very ill and only weighed 57 pounds so I was still able to overpower him (and it was ME dragging HIM into a lab for bloodwork). I will never forget my sense of anger, frustration, embarassment, humiliation -- the whole ball of wax, as complete strangers watched slack-jawed while I tried to pry his fingers from the hand rail as he dissolved into a screaming, writhing puddle of limbs on the ground. It was just awful. After that, I had a long, insistent conversation with our psychiatrist asking for help so that he could get through these situations without such horrific drama. For my kid, Ativan was the magic bullet, and then guided imagery was added later, and then an SSRI to address his innate anxiety that pushed him over that edge into phobic-land. I'm happy to report that two years later, he manages these situations without the Ativan. Doesn't mean he doesn't get upset, but he copes SO much better and he feels more in control of himself. It's been good for everyone. I hope once you calm down a bit you can reach her to talk about what you two just went through and begin working on a plan to improve the outcome for next time. There are lots of different ways to approach it, but the key is finding what works for her AND you. Hugs! And just to add a little post script here... I found it to be IMMENSELY helpful to get the clinician (whether it be the phlebotomist, the dentist, the IV nurse, etc.) up to speed on my kid's basic history/issues as it relates to the procedure at hand. I drafted a "To Whom It May Concern" letter explaining his phobia, the best way to handle him for a successful outcome, and the consequences for choosing to ignore his needs (like a frantic, uncooperative kid having a panic attack, vomiting, hyperventilating, screaming, kicking, etc., as well as the likelihood of a FAILED appointment -- translation, a waste of everyone's time). I simply handed it to the front desk at check in and made sure everyone understood before I took him back to wherever the procedure was being done. Let me tell you, it made a WORLD of difference in everyone's attitude (they were very appreciative), and there were absolutely no surprises. Forewarned is fore-armed! [/QUOTE]
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