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Daughter does it again! Long angry rant (LAR).
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 190620" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I long ago stopped caring about how it looks to other people. If I continued to care, it would be too easy for my kids to hold me to ransom over how other people think. This way, I just shrug and walk away.</p><p></p><p>One thing - why did you try to break her phone? Confiscate, maybe - but why break it? Remove the batteries and SIM for sure...</p><p></p><p>She's caught in a cycle of histrionics purely for attention and then tries to organise the world (and you) to rewrite the truth to some fiction she can tolerate. I think you're doing what you can when you walk away - I wouldn't have given her a hug either - but I think you need more weapons in your armoury. Are you getting help for you? Has your therapist got any advice for the best way to handle her when she's being such a problem?</p><p></p><p>I understand the dentist's reluctance to try to operate on someone so clearly uncooperative and unstable, there are safety issues - but I do get the feeling that he was trying to find excuses for calling it off. I'd be considering a different dentist, one who you have primed beforehand to know where she's coming from and to not buy into her tantrums.</p><p></p><p>I strongly hope that ANY complaining she does about her teeth hurting - remind her, calmly, that she only has herself to blame if those wisdom teeth are still able to hurt her. She had her chance to get them out and she sabotaged it thoroughly. She's 17 - she knew darn well exactly what she was doing.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 190620, member: 1991"] I long ago stopped caring about how it looks to other people. If I continued to care, it would be too easy for my kids to hold me to ransom over how other people think. This way, I just shrug and walk away. One thing - why did you try to break her phone? Confiscate, maybe - but why break it? Remove the batteries and SIM for sure... She's caught in a cycle of histrionics purely for attention and then tries to organise the world (and you) to rewrite the truth to some fiction she can tolerate. I think you're doing what you can when you walk away - I wouldn't have given her a hug either - but I think you need more weapons in your armoury. Are you getting help for you? Has your therapist got any advice for the best way to handle her when she's being such a problem? I understand the dentist's reluctance to try to operate on someone so clearly uncooperative and unstable, there are safety issues - but I do get the feeling that he was trying to find excuses for calling it off. I'd be considering a different dentist, one who you have primed beforehand to know where she's coming from and to not buy into her tantrums. I strongly hope that ANY complaining she does about her teeth hurting - remind her, calmly, that she only has herself to blame if those wisdom teeth are still able to hurt her. She had her chance to get them out and she sabotaged it thoroughly. She's 17 - she knew darn well exactly what she was doing. Marg [/QUOTE]
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