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Daughter does it again! Long angry rant (LAR).
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<blockquote data-quote="So Tired" data-source="post: 190660" data-attributes="member: 4772"><p>I'm feelin' your pain, Dazed! It is so humiliating when difficult child's act out in public. It's like a big spotlight is shining on your parenting skills. You imagine the other people thinking "What the heck is wrong with that kid? Why doesn't the Mother do something to get him under control?" I always feel like I could have the strength to do the right thing, if only I knew what the "right thing" to do was!</p><p> </p><p>My difficult child act out like that also, especially during things he considers "scary". It's like he has no coping skills to deal with unpleasant feelings -- whenever he feels anxious or angry or frustrated there is a big meltdown. My problem is that he refuses to try and help himself. Won't take medications, won't see therapist. Arrr!</p><p> </p><p>Following you around asking you for hugs and kisses really seems like two things. First, powerplay, like "you still have to love me" Second, maybe she really was upset with herself and felt that if she could get you to forgive her it really wasn't that bad and she didn't have to feel guilty. I understand the feelings of disgust. They totally ruin your day and you are all upset and then they will say, casually, "love ya" Like everything is peachy-keen. The other day mine asked me why I'm always so crabby with him. I paused a minute and then told him the truth. I said "I guess I'm just still angry with you for all the cr@p you have been putting us through for the past 2 years." I'm tired of pretending that I still feel the same about him. He has hurt me deeply and I'm just not willing to be that vulnerable....</p><p> </p><p>Mine refused to go to his oral surgeon appointment (I had to call and explain why we were a no-show), so he still hasn't had his wisdom teeth yanked, but I told him I'm not going through it again. If he wants to go he will have to call and schedule and such. I'm not willing to fight him on it. I have been fighting with him on medications and apointmments and responsibilties for years. I know it sounds awful, but if his teeth are a mess because of it that is just going to be his problem. He can deal with it on his own. (Wow, that sounds bitter, doesn't it?) I just don't have it in me to fight him on these things anymore.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="So Tired, post: 190660, member: 4772"] I'm feelin' your pain, Dazed! It is so humiliating when difficult child's act out in public. It's like a big spotlight is shining on your parenting skills. You imagine the other people thinking "What the heck is wrong with that kid? Why doesn't the Mother do something to get him under control?" I always feel like I could have the strength to do the right thing, if only I knew what the "right thing" to do was! My difficult child act out like that also, especially during things he considers "scary". It's like he has no coping skills to deal with unpleasant feelings -- whenever he feels anxious or angry or frustrated there is a big meltdown. My problem is that he refuses to try and help himself. Won't take medications, won't see therapist. Arrr! Following you around asking you for hugs and kisses really seems like two things. First, powerplay, like "you still have to love me" Second, maybe she really was upset with herself and felt that if she could get you to forgive her it really wasn't that bad and she didn't have to feel guilty. I understand the feelings of disgust. They totally ruin your day and you are all upset and then they will say, casually, "love ya" Like everything is peachy-keen. The other day mine asked me why I'm always so crabby with him. I paused a minute and then told him the truth. I said "I guess I'm just still angry with you for all the cr@p you have been putting us through for the past 2 years." I'm tired of pretending that I still feel the same about him. He has hurt me deeply and I'm just not willing to be that vulnerable.... Mine refused to go to his oral surgeon appointment (I had to call and explain why we were a no-show), so he still hasn't had his wisdom teeth yanked, but I told him I'm not going through it again. If he wants to go he will have to call and schedule and such. I'm not willing to fight him on it. I have been fighting with him on medications and apointmments and responsibilties for years. I know it sounds awful, but if his teeth are a mess because of it that is just going to be his problem. He can deal with it on his own. (Wow, that sounds bitter, doesn't it?) I just don't have it in me to fight him on these things anymore. [/QUOTE]
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