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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 111326" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>MWM, of course he is the one to make the choices. I also agree</p><p>that there are toxic people in the world and in some families.</p><p>on the other hand, almost all of the CD family members have experienced the</p><p>disappointment and emotional pain of having friends and family who just either can't or won't get that difficult children are...well...difficult children</p><p>and not PCs. That is not my definition of toxic. I'll put on my Warrior Mom gear and stand at the side of any CD family member who has to protect a child. There is nothing woosey about me.</p><p></p><p>on the other hand, when you are in the midst of the pain of raising a difficult child by yourself it is easy to lose sight of the fact that most family members have some good points...even if they don't "get it". I</p><p>had in-laws, for example, who were from the country in the South</p><p>where racial differences were not tolerated. My Ex and I tried</p><p>keeping the children away from them in protest. Finally we figured out that we needed to teach our little children to speak</p><p>out when their grandparents said a bad word. They were caring,</p><p>wonderful, nurturing people and the children all benefited from the time they spent together BUT they knew "we don't use words</p><p>like that Grampa..it's not nice" by heart. </p><p></p><p>My adult children and my teen g/children have a biodad/grandpa</p><p>who is a booty. He "knows" that easy child/difficult child is nothing but a criminal</p><p>and is "using" his brain damage as an excuse to get away with</p><p>things. :hammer: Everyone uses the same sentence when he tries</p><p>to get the subject going "we don't care to discuss that subject".</p><p>It works. He's a booty but as easy child/difficult child says "he is my grandfather</p><p>and sometimes he is fun to be around". That is what I meant.</p><p>Not "evil to the bone" people. Just flawed family members. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 111326, member: 35"] MWM, of course he is the one to make the choices. I also agree that there are toxic people in the world and in some families. on the other hand, almost all of the CD family members have experienced the disappointment and emotional pain of having friends and family who just either can't or won't get that difficult children are...well...difficult children and not PCs. That is not my definition of toxic. I'll put on my Warrior Mom gear and stand at the side of any CD family member who has to protect a child. There is nothing woosey about me. on the other hand, when you are in the midst of the pain of raising a difficult child by yourself it is easy to lose sight of the fact that most family members have some good points...even if they don't "get it". I had in-laws, for example, who were from the country in the South where racial differences were not tolerated. My Ex and I tried keeping the children away from them in protest. Finally we figured out that we needed to teach our little children to speak out when their grandparents said a bad word. They were caring, wonderful, nurturing people and the children all benefited from the time they spent together BUT they knew "we don't use words like that Grampa..it's not nice" by heart. My adult children and my teen g/children have a biodad/grandpa who is a booty. He "knows" that easy child/difficult child is nothing but a criminal and is "using" his brain damage as an excuse to get away with things. [img]:hammer:[/img] Everyone uses the same sentence when he tries to get the subject going "we don't care to discuss that subject". It works. He's a booty but as easy child/difficult child says "he is my grandfather and sometimes he is fun to be around". That is what I meant. Not "evil to the bone" people. Just flawed family members. DDD [/QUOTE]
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