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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 111501" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Sorry, David. I didn't mean to confuse my input...I meant to</p><p>recap and acknowledge that some relatives must be avoided at all</p><p>costs. One of the CD members posted earlier in the thread saying</p><p>that eliminating all contact with "toxic" family members was a</p><p>necessity. Obviously, for example, your biodad was "toxic" and</p><p>obviously neither you nor your son would want to have any contact</p><p>with him. I was acknowledging that those type of relatives were</p><p>not the ones I was referring to when I suggested that Justin be</p><p>encouraged to feel the strength of extended family.</p><p></p><p>I don't want to beat a dead horse, lol. My suggestion is that</p><p>it is natural to see the situation as "you and your son" trying</p><p>to forge a new and happier life but...after difficult child is out of the Residential Treatment Center (RTC)</p><p>he will be rejoining society and aiming at finding "his" place in</p><p>the world. This is easier to do when you feel the sense of extended family as a loosely knit safety net. As he learns to</p><p>accept the faults and embrace the strengths of various family members, it will be easier for him to accept his own faults and</p><p>cherish his own individual strengths.</p><p></p><p>The reference to "the turnip" was just a last use of my Dads</p><p>expression. The point being? Well, you are a healthy man who</p><p>anticipates having another fifty years to parent. Ugly things</p><p>happen in life to good people sometimes. Since there is no way</p><p>of knowing what the future will bring, as a parent it is wise to</p><p>prepare our children to live independently just in case we are not there to nurture/support/parent them. The correspondence</p><p>you are allowing is an example. Good choice. That gives your</p><p>son another family member to connect with.</p><p></p><p>If you have access to the counselor that you and Justin shared</p><p>before he went to Residential Treatment Center (RTC), I really think you should pick up the phone and utilize him as a sounding board for your adjustment.</p><p>It should be helpful for you and the healthier and happier you are in your life, the healthier and happier Justin will be, too.</p><p>DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 111501, member: 35"] Sorry, David. I didn't mean to confuse my input...I meant to recap and acknowledge that some relatives must be avoided at all costs. One of the CD members posted earlier in the thread saying that eliminating all contact with "toxic" family members was a necessity. Obviously, for example, your biodad was "toxic" and obviously neither you nor your son would want to have any contact with him. I was acknowledging that those type of relatives were not the ones I was referring to when I suggested that Justin be encouraged to feel the strength of extended family. I don't want to beat a dead horse, lol. My suggestion is that it is natural to see the situation as "you and your son" trying to forge a new and happier life but...after difficult child is out of the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) he will be rejoining society and aiming at finding "his" place in the world. This is easier to do when you feel the sense of extended family as a loosely knit safety net. As he learns to accept the faults and embrace the strengths of various family members, it will be easier for him to accept his own faults and cherish his own individual strengths. The reference to "the turnip" was just a last use of my Dads expression. The point being? Well, you are a healthy man who anticipates having another fifty years to parent. Ugly things happen in life to good people sometimes. Since there is no way of knowing what the future will bring, as a parent it is wise to prepare our children to live independently just in case we are not there to nurture/support/parent them. The correspondence you are allowing is an example. Good choice. That gives your son another family member to connect with. If you have access to the counselor that you and Justin shared before he went to Residential Treatment Center (RTC), I really think you should pick up the phone and utilize him as a sounding board for your adjustment. It should be helpful for you and the healthier and happier you are in your life, the healthier and happier Justin will be, too. DDD [/QUOTE]
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