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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 251430" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Time for a break for you. Is there anything that you can stop doing (volunteer wise)? It will be hard to start with, but you can stop being available to help others.</p><p></p><p>This is not saying you don't care anymore (even though it feels like it, you really do). It is saying that you need to re-energize.</p><p> </p><p>I am giving up Sunday School Superintendent after 10 years because I have recognized that it is bringing me down. I am resenting how I am becoming the go to person for everyone's complaints - you know, anything that goes wrong has to be the fault of a child at church which makes it Andy's responsibility! I love this position but I need a break.</p><p> </p><p>Be truthful to yourself when considering helping someone. Can you really afford the stress (even good stress is stress and it becomes bad stress when you are on overload) of doing this one thing? Someone need a ride to the grocery store? That is their responsibility and if you are unable to, don't let them put any guilt on you. It is their problem to take care of.</p><p> </p><p>I hope this makes sense. Last year I was so down feeling like you did and I decided to stop the world, clear my activities, and start fresh. It took a long time but it is working. I am a volunteer person like you. I live to help others but when that starts pulling you down, it is time for a break to take care of yourself for awhile and renew your strength.</p><p> </p><p>You are a special person. Your wisdom and knowledge is so tremendous. You are correct, you don't need a piece of paper to tell yourself that you do know stuff and what you don't know you can figure out. Like me and everyone here, you have learned more than any formalized schooling can teach. You know what you can and can not do, what you want to learn. To me, anyone wanting to learn something is going to do a better job than someone who gets the job just because they went through a class but doesn't have the work ethic to grow in the job.</p><p></p><p>I had a friend facing a job interview once. She was concerned because she wasn't familiar with the job duties. I told her, "No one knows the exact duties of any job until you work it for awhile. What is important is that you go into the interview and prove that you are interested in this position and that you can learn it."</p><p> </p><p>So, "Stop the World" for yourself by taking time for YOU! Then, when you are ready, slowly start your fun helping others activities.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 251430, member: 5096"] Time for a break for you. Is there anything that you can stop doing (volunteer wise)? It will be hard to start with, but you can stop being available to help others. This is not saying you don't care anymore (even though it feels like it, you really do). It is saying that you need to re-energize. I am giving up Sunday School Superintendent after 10 years because I have recognized that it is bringing me down. I am resenting how I am becoming the go to person for everyone's complaints - you know, anything that goes wrong has to be the fault of a child at church which makes it Andy's responsibility! I love this position but I need a break. Be truthful to yourself when considering helping someone. Can you really afford the stress (even good stress is stress and it becomes bad stress when you are on overload) of doing this one thing? Someone need a ride to the grocery store? That is their responsibility and if you are unable to, don't let them put any guilt on you. It is their problem to take care of. I hope this makes sense. Last year I was so down feeling like you did and I decided to stop the world, clear my activities, and start fresh. It took a long time but it is working. I am a volunteer person like you. I live to help others but when that starts pulling you down, it is time for a break to take care of yourself for awhile and renew your strength. You are a special person. Your wisdom and knowledge is so tremendous. You are correct, you don't need a piece of paper to tell yourself that you do know stuff and what you don't know you can figure out. Like me and everyone here, you have learned more than any formalized schooling can teach. You know what you can and can not do, what you want to learn. To me, anyone wanting to learn something is going to do a better job than someone who gets the job just because they went through a class but doesn't have the work ethic to grow in the job. I had a friend facing a job interview once. She was concerned because she wasn't familiar with the job duties. I told her, "No one knows the exact duties of any job until you work it for awhile. What is important is that you go into the interview and prove that you are interested in this position and that you can learn it." So, "Stop the World" for yourself by taking time for YOU! Then, when you are ready, slowly start your fun helping others activities. [/QUOTE]
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