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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 611673" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>There are two parts to this thread. The first is a reality check: What have you lost?</p><p></p><p>Ok, let's brainstorm here <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I used to feel the same way after Scott left the family. So I'll tell you, from where I sit, what you have lost. </p><p></p><p>Nothing. You didn't lose your difficult child daughter, but she isn't living with you because you wouldn't kiss her feet. Is that really a loss? Maybe you lost the girl you wish she was. Do you really miss who she is today? As for your parents, they have been AWFUL, putting you down, undermining you at every turn, betraying you. Now he honest. Were they ever June and Ward Cleaver or did you always have them smiling at you while putting you down? If so, is that REALLY a loss? Sometimes our loss is really the loss of the way we wish things were, not the reality of what they actually are. Is it "getting my family back" if you have to beg them to come and, at the same time, accept their abuse? I don't think so. What YOU think may be different. I hope you can have a nice PEACEFUL holiday season with your husband and easy child. Our family is very small because we tossed out all the abusers or they tossed us. No problem. We have NO fights and really enjoy the peace of the holiday season without the drama. You may find you do too. I know we all want our parents to respect us, love us for who we are, be proud of us, etc. The fact is, probably at least half of us don't have that and feel worse AFTER we are with our parents than if we hadn't been with them at all. What do you miss about them?</p><p></p><p>Also, I think you should probably tell your doctor about your depression. You may need medication and once you are no longer depressed, things do not look so black and hopeless. Feeling hopeless, lonely, worthless and tired...sometimes too tired to even sweep the floor...are all symptoms of clinical depression, which can be treated. Go to a psychiatrist and get help. You deserve it!!! (((Hugs)))!!</p><p></p><p>Now</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 611673, member: 1550"] There are two parts to this thread. The first is a reality check: What have you lost? Ok, let's brainstorm here :) I used to feel the same way after Scott left the family. So I'll tell you, from where I sit, what you have lost. Nothing. You didn't lose your difficult child daughter, but she isn't living with you because you wouldn't kiss her feet. Is that really a loss? Maybe you lost the girl you wish she was. Do you really miss who she is today? As for your parents, they have been AWFUL, putting you down, undermining you at every turn, betraying you. Now he honest. Were they ever June and Ward Cleaver or did you always have them smiling at you while putting you down? If so, is that REALLY a loss? Sometimes our loss is really the loss of the way we wish things were, not the reality of what they actually are. Is it "getting my family back" if you have to beg them to come and, at the same time, accept their abuse? I don't think so. What YOU think may be different. I hope you can have a nice PEACEFUL holiday season with your husband and easy child. Our family is very small because we tossed out all the abusers or they tossed us. No problem. We have NO fights and really enjoy the peace of the holiday season without the drama. You may find you do too. I know we all want our parents to respect us, love us for who we are, be proud of us, etc. The fact is, probably at least half of us don't have that and feel worse AFTER we are with our parents than if we hadn't been with them at all. What do you miss about them? Also, I think you should probably tell your doctor about your depression. You may need medication and once you are no longer depressed, things do not look so black and hopeless. Feeling hopeless, lonely, worthless and tired...sometimes too tired to even sweep the floor...are all symptoms of clinical depression, which can be treated. Go to a psychiatrist and get help. You deserve it!!! (((Hugs)))!! Now [/QUOTE]
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