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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 295062"><p>Star...that is lovely!!! And you most certainly have helped me! And to top it off...your sense of humor is a delight!</p><p> </p><p>I receive (d) the most help from here from those who have been there done that and from those who have taken the time to calmly and kindly explain about detachment...guiding me and helping me look at things differently.</p><p> </p><p>I still think I have a tiny bit further to go...but for me, part of my journey has been that I rarely concern myself about difficult children poor choices. </p><p> </p><p>Certainly, I wish she wouldn't make them. I have brief moments that it tugs at my heart. However, I do not feel personally responsible for her choices, I do not worry about them, I don't lose sleep over her choices and I do my very best to enjoy each and every day.</p><p> </p><p>We are not robots...we are human beings. I'm not sure if we can be totally immune to it all. </p><p> </p><p>However, I just can't allow myself to go through life wearing a hair shirt. I really see the goodness out there and I want to experience it. Happiness is a choice...and a chose it. </p><p> </p><p>difficult child has choices to make as well. Each of us has a choice. I hope that in time she makes better ones. There are signs that this will happen. I can not make them for her.</p><p> </p><p>All I can do for sure, is make choices for myself. I chose to detach. It is freeing to myself (and to difficult child). It frees me up to enjoy life more fully and to feel happy...something each one of us has a G-d given right to experience.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 295062"] Star...that is lovely!!! And you most certainly have helped me! And to top it off...your sense of humor is a delight! I receive (d) the most help from here from those who have been there done that and from those who have taken the time to calmly and kindly explain about detachment...guiding me and helping me look at things differently. I still think I have a tiny bit further to go...but for me, part of my journey has been that I rarely concern myself about difficult children poor choices. Certainly, I wish she wouldn't make them. I have brief moments that it tugs at my heart. However, I do not feel personally responsible for her choices, I do not worry about them, I don't lose sleep over her choices and I do my very best to enjoy each and every day. We are not robots...we are human beings. I'm not sure if we can be totally immune to it all. However, I just can't allow myself to go through life wearing a hair shirt. I really see the goodness out there and I want to experience it. Happiness is a choice...and a chose it. difficult child has choices to make as well. Each of us has a choice. I hope that in time she makes better ones. There are signs that this will happen. I can not make them for her. All I can do for sure, is make choices for myself. I chose to detach. It is freeing to myself (and to difficult child). It frees me up to enjoy life more fully and to feel happy...something each one of us has a G-d given right to experience. [/QUOTE]
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