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Detachment just doesn't want to happen! Update
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 429454" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I absolutely understand the feelings...and the guilt about them. Is there any chance that you can slant future conversations toward independent living should he come back to his home town? Yes, I know it sounds "sneaky" (and perhaps it is) but since there is such social ambivalence in adult difficult children perhaps you and husband could "suggest" "volunteer to explore" or in other ways seek out a place of his own should he come back....so the seed would be planted well in advance that you all know he wants to continue to be independent even if he does opt to live in town?? </p><p> </p><p>Were he to move back into "his room" it would be a long stressful battle to get him relocated. I'm hoping that by presenting the concept to him as his..it may either one take away the idea of going backwards into dependence or trigger thoughts of future pride in finding his own home. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 429454, member: 35"] I absolutely understand the feelings...and the guilt about them. Is there any chance that you can slant future conversations toward independent living should he come back to his home town? Yes, I know it sounds "sneaky" (and perhaps it is) but since there is such social ambivalence in adult difficult children perhaps you and husband could "suggest" "volunteer to explore" or in other ways seek out a place of his own should he come back....so the seed would be planted well in advance that you all know he wants to continue to be independent even if he does opt to live in town?? Were he to move back into "his room" it would be a long stressful battle to get him relocated. I'm hoping that by presenting the concept to him as his..it may either one take away the idea of going backwards into dependence or trigger thoughts of future pride in finding his own home. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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